What needs to be done in a divorce? Can you do it without a lawyer? Do I cancel our credit cards and get new ones? How do I take his name off the bank accts? His car is in my name, but he doesn't want it anymore. Do I still keep paying for it? What all must we do now?
2006-07-29 12:59:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have heard that some people get a divorce without getting a lawyer, but I would never try it. I wanted everything locked up nice and legal so there was no way he could hurt me again.
I would get a lawyer ASAP and see what needs to be done to get it over as soon as you can.
2006-07-29 13:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright. First thing is you need to really calm down! Go out and by this book called 40 Days and 40 Nights written by ILENE SEGALOVE and start that immediately. Next sit down and write out all the bills and who's name is on what.
Try not to let the divorce to get hostle. Keep things civil so that away it is easier. Go to the bank together and either take one name off or seperate the accounts there. Do not keep bank accounts together for to long. Next call the credit card companies and see who is the primary on each account and take the secondary off and shred the cards of the secondary person since they won't work anyways. If he does not want to keep the car that is in your name then you keep it. If you can not afford it then sell it and get at least some money from it. If you are serious of leaving him then you both must seperate and live in seperate houses. Call up your cuort offices and ask about how long you must be seperated before the courts would grant the divorce. You can do a pro-say (can't spell so I spelled how it sounds) kit and do things that away, but I would not recommend it without at least a legal advisor. I would recommend looking in the phone book and asking around to see who does free consultation and talk to the attorney and see what they think. If there are children then you must think of who is better capable of taking care of them and know that now. But make sure you get that book to start helping you out. The rest of this will fall into place once you can relax. Do not stress over anything. Let it slide into the right holes of the process. Good luck.
2006-07-29 20:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by lmfansler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I just went through this. You really need a lawyer. The things your husband says now will not be the same things he says after the shock wears off and he gets angry. You can cancel your credit cards (to keep him from incurring any more debt) but any debt on these cards as of right now will be the responsibility of both you and him. You cannot take his name off of any bank accounts or utilities or anything like that without him being there with you... that goes for anything that is held jointly. If the car is in your name, then you must keep paying for it unless during the divorce proceedings the court assigns this debt to your husband. If you don't pay for the car until then it will be repossesed which will destroy your credit... and you will need that credit rating to be good in order to get anything from an apartment to cable to a bank account nowdays. If you keep a level head and come up with a plan things will turn out okay... Good luck to you.
2006-07-29 20:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi no you can't do it with out a lawyer if and you need to get an cancel the credit card.just call the bank and tell then you getting a divorce and you what his name off the bank accts,you have to make the payment on the car or you can seal the car to him and i wood like to know better because i when though a divorce
2006-07-29 21:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by dockb58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes people can get a divorce without an attorney being involved. Buy a divorce kit and this will work but only if you're both willing to go this route. In order for that to work, you both need to be in agreement about everything and not fight and argue about who gets what.
Call the credit card companies and get cards in your name only. Close out the bank accounts and open one in your name only. If he does not want the car, take it back and make sure his name is no where on that title. Pay for the car or if possible sell it if you don't want it and can't afford it. To not pay for it will go towards ruining your credit.
If he wants to fight about things, hire an attorney and let that attorney handle him. You'll be alright, hang in there and don't let anything get you down.
2006-07-29 21:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stay calm. Is a Divorce going to make your life better or just different? If you are convinced that Divorce is the answer the next step is to contact an Attorney. Divorce is a LEGAL process and you need to have the advice of a trained professional. Many Attorneys offer a free initial consultation so take advantage of this with as many as you can and ask as many questions as you can.
Divorce differs from State to State so you need to know what your particular locations laws are. There are many good sites on the web that offer State specific information (www.divorcenet.com) is one but look at as many as you can and gather as much information as you can.
If there are children involved then you MUST have an Attorney. This is not a law but a very good piece of advice.
Stay calm, gather information, learn the processes involved in obtaining a LEGAL Divorce in your State. The sooner you KNOW what you are doing, the better off you will be. Get busy.
2006-07-29 20:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by cc smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the car is in just your name take it and keep it or sell it. normally you need a lawyer, unless you can discus it with him find out what he wants and what you want. sometimes you can do it yourselves sometimes not. If you can come up to a compromise do it. if the credit cards started in your name and you just added his then get new ones, the bank account thing get a new account in only your name, put your money in it, he cannot touch it. This is all the information I can give if i didn't answer all them for you then ask a lawyer for the rest, they may be able to give you more info.
2006-07-29 20:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by kznight1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't look like you can settle it between you amicably, get a lawyer. Decide what to do about the credit cards, the car, the house and other possessions. I would make a copy of all the credit card statements, bills, and keep receipts of payments, as sometimes people will run up the credit cards, empty the accounts, etc to screw their partner.
2006-07-29 20:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by merigold00 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can do it with out attorney.But its hard you both have to agree on everything..If you have children even harder..You need to cancel all credit cards that he can use if they are joint users..Open a new bank account in your name and close your joint one..If the car is in your name as far as the payment goes you will be held responsible for payment..
You would be better off contacting an attorney to see where you stand and what you need to do..
Good luck
2006-07-29 21:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you - that old bum was a no good piece of trash. You should have done this long ago. Now go find a good man and make him pay all your bills.
2006-07-29 20:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋