have been having a romatic thing going with a guy for about 5 years now.We are both in our late thirties.When we first met we both fell madly in love.Due to both our complicated circumstances we couldn't be together.Every so often we are drawn back together.,inmost istances i am the one who makes the initial contact.Last time we met, I swore that next time i would leave it up to him to contact me.But a month has passed and i am yearning to hear from him, but still have not.To most on lookers it may look like he is only using me,but by things he has said and the fact that he held back tears as he said Keep in touch.Do certain men not have the courage to contact a woman?I am afraid to be too direct as I feel it might scare him away.Can anyone help?
2006-07-29 12:58:59 · 3 answers · asked by lavito 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off, what is the complicated circumstance? Are one or both of you married? Secondly, when he does come around you is it sexual or do you spend time together with no sex?
Five years seems like a long time for nothing meaningful or no committment. I would suggest to quit wasting your time.
2006-07-29 13:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the other two answers have inferred, I'm also guessing that someone is either still involved with a significant other or spouse.
1 - That "other" relationship needs to be resolved before doing anything intimate with this man.
2 - Yes, you are probably reading him right. He is probably sincere and has genuine feelings for you. Not is probably not a lie. But it's sounds like he or both of you are being dishonest to each other or to other people. You don't want to start a relationship with any "dishonest" environment. Have the courage to face the issues honestly. If he can't love you openly, it's probably not honest.
3 - His "not contacting you" may not be a "lack of courage.' It could be for many other good reasons. It's fine for a woman to initiate, but it sounds like there is more going on here than we're being informed about.
Be honest. Act in ways that you can tell everyone about. If you have to hide it, that's a red flag. If you can do those 2 things, I hope you can find love, with him, or someone else.
2006-08-01 01:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by onemorealternative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men can be very decietful. Do you know if he is married or not? Some people can turn on the tears just for show. What were the "rules" if you want to call them that was your relationship based on? If and I say if you were just going to be lovers I would say that I wouldnt call him because there is alot more going on than he told you. Let him call you. Yes some men cant be honest and they are chicken to tell you the truth.
2006-07-29 20:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋