ive been with my bf for over a year and a half. at the beginning we had the normal infatuation thing where we can't get enough of each other and we are still kinda like that. we've become pretty close and know a lot about each other. we waited to have sex until just a few months ago. so we went a long time without doing it.
now, it's seems like we're still crazy about each other, but just for sex. we see each other every day (the first year it was 2 tims a week). i feel like we're almost just f*** buddies now. like we don't do or talk about anything except sexual things.
2 questions: in a long term relationship...is it normal to sometimes feel bored cause your in a routine...does it mean you're falling out of love? and is it normal when you first start having sex that that's all you do? how can we get back to having more of the emotional intimiacy and a little less sexual?
2006-07-29 12:48:24 · 9 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Welcome to the real world.
You have just begun having sex. Of course you are going to think, eat, sleep sex, because sex is so important, it is fun and it feels good, and you have the added element of its novelty.
And the being bored thing? Yes, indeed, it is possible to be bored by, yet still love, a person. You wouldn't be human otherwise.
As far as I can tell, you have a pretty good, normal relationship; you've both begun to have sex and will think about it most of the time for a while yet (beware of the day when you no longer think about it! now there's a problem). And don't forget you already know quite a lot about one another. And keep in mind that there may be days when you bore one another but so what? are you supposed to be constantly entertaining? only if you work in the industry. And now you are going to do something you haven't, for a while: resume talking about everything and anything. Mind you, it might lead to sex, but is that a problem?
2006-07-29 12:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already went through the more difficult part, determining that you two are compatible WITHOUT the sex. Now you're finding that you can't get enough of each other. That's amazing actually - looks like you're a great fit for each other.
You will naturally relax back toward what you had before. But if it's really bugging you, talk about it.
2006-07-29 19:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by beadtheway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is find similar things to do. you see if the only time you get together is to have sex, then you will both miss out on the finer things in life. so don't be afraid to hold his hand, or get together for movies,or any of the infinite possibility's that lay before you. if you think the sex is good, wait till you raise the level of the rest of your relationship, stand back cause we just found another couple truly in love.!!!!!!
2006-07-29 20:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Givingitthought 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like , since you only started having sex, your just enjoying each other sexually and don't have much time for anything else(since you don't live together, and only see one and other so little)...I think that's normal, and when you have had enough sex, things will return to normal.
2006-07-29 19:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by lavito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LTR -- yes its normal to feel the routine of being with the same person every day... Philosopher Kahlil Gibran wrote poetically about love... he says to "... let there be spaces in your togetherness... let the winds of the heavens dance between you..." I believe this will not only heighten the sexual tension already there but will also really make you appreciate being with one another and not just ******* one another...
2006-07-29 20:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by notsurewhat4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to my bf and i. it's just a phase. it'll go away soon. but if you want it to go away now then maybe you should plan a romantic night with candles, dinner, etc. Tell him you want to make love with him, just not have sex.
2006-07-29 19:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rumour has it that once you Pop you can't stop. You should obviously try to make yourself more unavailable, try to meet publically and talk things out. Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-07-29 19:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by thicksauce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can what you want.tell him how you feel about it.when he want to have sex next time tell him and see if that's all he wants from you are if he's willing to respect you.
2006-07-29 19:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by sexydiabla592 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell him how you feel. EFIL
2006-07-29 19:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋