I had a baby what do i do?

Question

Now that i have had a baby my boyfriends and i sex life is not so good maybe once a week i was attractive and little im 5'9" and 190 before i had my son i was 135 how do i make him want me again

im getting e-mails to lose weight im trying to do that but its not easy i had complications and my son was 10 pounds i am still very pretty but for some reason he just doesnt seem interested in me anymore help please and no mean answers

Answer 1

If he really cares about you or his child he would not treat you this way. Be confident about yourself this is not the end of the world. and once you feel confident about you he'll learn to have to appreciate you.......

Answer 2

If he only cares about how you look, then there is a problem, that is not true love. A man loves his wife no matter what.
BUT, it is important that you lose the weight, not for looks, not for him, but for you , your health,and well being.

I had thyroid disease and of course the aftermath of it was disastorous and a doctor help me lose weight by telling me to limit my portions. NOT STARVE just limit your food portions.
I still eat my favorite foods, but I eat them in limited amounts.

Try not to eat a lot of sweet and fatty foods, drink plenty of water, and when the opportunity is there go for walks. Half an hour a day 3 times a week is sufficient. Maybe you can get some type of an excercise unit for your home. A treadmill or stationery bike.

Don't work yourself to death or starve yourself. Just eat reasonably and excercise reasonably. You will lose at least 2 pounds a week which is safe and reasonable. That is 8 pounds a month.

Remember don't do it for him, do it for YOU. If you do it for him, you are only going to get discouraged because you might feel you are not losing it fast enough.

Answer 3

Perhaps he just wanted sex with you, and didn't plan on being a father because of it.
If you were married before you had sex and a baby, you and your husband would have worked through these things and developed a closer relationship.
I would say move on, get healthy, and be a good mom to your child. Forget a guy that was just there for the sex.
Your child should be your priority right now, not some scumbag, and most certainly not your sex life.

Answer 4

Don't worry. It takes time to loose baby weight and extra weight takes regular exercise and eating right for a long time.

Some men loose their interest when you loose the feminine curves, so to speak. Everyone has limits. To answer your question, get lingerie in the meantime, play up your strengths such as hair, eyes, bust, etc...and keep the lights off or use a red light (makes your imperfections pretty much dissappear!)

Either way loose the weight for your health. You will both win.

Answer 5

Take it one step of a time to loss the weight. Your boyfriend may evenually come around and maybe he is not able to deal wit this staution, which is about u and the baby. I wish that everyting will be ok with u and ur family.

Answer 6

Welcome to motherhood. If you want to lose the extra pounds then you need to workout and eat right. But do it for you and not your boyfriend. True loves goes way deeper then looks and if he loves you truly then he would not care about the little extra pounds. He needs to accept you for whom you are not not for your sex.

Answer 7

If all he cares about are you're looks then you should dump him. Cause he should care about more then just how you look. Cause after all you did give him a child.and he should be grateful that you still want to be with him.good luck

Answer 8

Drop your kid off at the firestation and lose 60 lbs. Get some breast implants too. I'm serious...not really...but seriously...

Answer 9

lose 55 lbs

Answer 10

u should dump him. if he only cares about looks that is unfair and u deserve better