2006-07-29 12:09:16 · 13 answers · asked by TAWNIE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the thing is , love doesn't move on, its still in your heart, locked away for those rocking chair days and old love letters in that tin box tied with ribbon.... we will always remember that special love in our lives....its what keeps us alive. All you can do is postpone it till you want to light that candle again and let it flicker in your memory.One day it will go out, then it will be darkness, then it wont matter.Until then , just let your heart ache till somebody else takes that pain away .............and they will.....one day.
2006-07-29 12:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by tally Ho ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move on by literally taking it one day at a time. You find little things to help distract you from thinking about him. You get involved with other people in a non-dating situation such as interest groups.
One thing you must remember is that you are not the only one to ever go through this and you will get through. You will have good days and then bad days. Eventually you begin to notice that the good days are outnumbering the bad days.
One thing that has helped me out is to allow myself time to feel "blue" about things. I can tell when my mood just isn't right, and I know that sadness is creeping up on me. I take time to myself and have a good cry. The first time it lasted the who day. I had an episode last night that lasted only 10 minutes. After that I told myself that time was up and I had to start finding positive things in my life. Withing the 10 minutes I felt better.
2006-07-29 20:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is one of the biggest things you can rely on. Just realize that you are better than the other person and that they left or lost the best thing that ever could have been in their life. Also go buy a book. A specific book though. It is called 40 Days and 40 Nights written by ILENE SEGALOVE. This book will help you start the copeing process. It will help you start to love yourself again and help you start to relaize where you should be. Just trust in yourself and let only family and close friends to be in your life (besides this book). Just start changeing your daily routine and making little changes and start looking at things differently. It will take time but you can do it. Just have faith in yourself and you will succeed and be happier. Good luck. Take it easy and stay safe.
2006-07-29 19:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by lmfansler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to lose anyone...there isn't a specific time factor for when you will feel better, or question now can I move on? Even when we 'move' on, thoughts of this person will still be there. Regardless, take your time, cry, yell, talk to someone, we all go through different stages but if it definitely gets to a point where you aren't thinking correctly please do seek professional help or if you are involved in church confide in a member. "Time heals all wounds" Time refering to days,months, years or just maybe never, regardless make the best of your life. God Bless, Take Care & Good Luck!
2006-07-29 19:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my problem too! It is hard not to think of that one person all the time and see places that remind you of them or things that were good. I just take it one day at a time and ask the LORD to guide me down the road. Pray this > DEAR LORd ...put my past as history and lead me into the future in your loving arms and bless the one who has hurt me but help me to move forward with my life...AMEN
2006-07-29 19:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by carrie_hendley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say time heals all. ur life was there even b4 u met the love of ur life . remember those times and do what u used to like. i am sure u can love again even it will not be the love of ur life it will be campanion who can just be there for u and understnd u. happiness is a state of mind. i would say just do things to move on and make ur self useful. like social service or such a thing
2006-07-29 19:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time! You may always love and never forget this person but you have to let yourself get over him. Get busy, go out with friends, start doing workouts, be busy. Time will heal your heart and you will meet someone who is meant for you in the future.
2006-07-29 19:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by MissShorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowly, very slowly. I don't know anyone who hit the ground running after a break-up if they really cared. Just get out and mingle--when you are ready
2006-07-29 19:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time dear,& sometimes you dont,but you learn to move on,I hope this helps,God bless.
2006-07-29 19:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by tonilovie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Takes 8-12 months. But you'll do it. We are all stronger than we know.
2006-07-29 19:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Hank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋