I have known this guy for over 3 years. We are very experimental when it comes to sex but lately he only wants the same position each time we do it. I want to be more flexible. Whenever i change the position he turns me back the way he likes it.
2006-07-29 11:20:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are having a difficult time changing positions in a familiar place, change the place. A change of place might limit the options of position enough to accomodate your desire, like the sofa, the kitchen cabinet, washing machine etc. A change of place often times requires some experimentation to find a good position that will satisfy both and keep you from a rut. Ruts and comfort are easy to get into and if they are in the same location, ie, the bedroom then we as human beings are inclined to find a groove or rut for certain activities. If you cannot get him out of the bed, take it down. Partners sometimes are like kids, suttle insistance will jog their memories to how much fun different is instead of finding the most satisfying and labeling it as the one for use. Don't give up on variety as it is the best for keeping things interesting and alive. In this case you can lead him to water and with the right actions make him drink also. Good luck and I admire your drive to keep things interesting. He is a lucky man.
2006-07-29 11:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh, a tricky one!! I think you should tell him that you had an erotic dream, and that you want to act out the dream, to see if it could really be THAT good.
You should say it in a way that makes it seem as though it would benefit him.
And also, maybe after three years he has just gotten lazy. When people have been in a relationship for a while, they start to get comfortable and stop trying.
Maybe you should suprise him with sexy lingerie and role play. Try different places to have sex. Sex shouldn't be routine, it should be fun.
Best of luck to you, chick! x
2006-07-29 11:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by ButterflyQueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well while having sex if he puts you in that same position just say how bout we do (whatever you want) if he refuses that the time to stop havin sex and tell him that you just want to try something else because you know that hed be great in that position too
sometimes the only way out is the truth
sucky right?
2006-07-29 11:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by tb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love the dude, then how can telling him be offensive?
and whats wrong with him? dudes should like all kinds of positions and he's lucky he's got a such an adventureous chick as a lover. i cant even get any at all! i'd be lucky if i could get one position. some people have all the luck. u should just tell him how lucky he is.
2006-07-29 11:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell him, educate him by talking to him!! Start to be on top of him rather than the routine missionary position which actually is a "controlling or power" position for the guy!!
Good luck!!
2006-07-29 11:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by Tony I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negotiate, tell him he'll get what he wants when you get what you want. Ask him why he has become stuck on this one position when you used to do all kinds of things. Without knowing why he does it trying to figure out how to change it is nearly impossible.
2006-07-29 11:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being selfish, only tbinking of his pleasure, not yours.
Being subtle with this guy, won't work. You have tried that by simply moving around.
Unless you are firm, on what you want, nothing will change.
If he won't change, then you have to make the change in boyfriends.
2006-07-29 11:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and tell him what you want. If he loves you as much as you love him and you are meant to be together then he will do it. He won't know what you want unless you tell him.
Good luck
2006-07-29 11:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whisper him your "fantasy" you wish to play out in his ear all hawt and saucy whatever position u like to get him in when he's all hawt and ready get to it .
Example :mmM babe it would make me so hot if you ugghh *moan *please do me in my riped panties up against the wall
and just insert whatever position u like in the sentence and that should get it going girl .
2006-07-29 11:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by insertstrawhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start doing creative things to him, bet he will like it n bring out his creative side too
2006-07-29 11:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by J Luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋