What is something that every wife should know?

Question

Um....what is this about kidding myself? I am a newlywed, just looking for words of advise, in general. Why jump to the conclusion that he is cheating? No wonder divorce rates are so high in this country!!

Answer 1

Never say anything out of anger. Once it's said it can't be taken back or forgotten!

Answer 2

Well you're obviously a new wife, You probably have sex all the time, and still "Talk" about everything! Yeah every beginner marriage is like that.
Know that, when and IF that stops, no matter how aggressive or assertive you are about your opinions, or wnats, or needs, it will slow down. BUT this is not bad, it just means you two are more comfortable.
"it will never happen to us". Yes it will, playful jokes, turn into sarcasim (yet still funny, and fun to joke around with), and holding hands, (me and my husband haven't stopped yet) but some people tend to hold hands less, they would start holding hands at movies, or at home watching tv, eventually, you are just sorta just cuddling, next, you're sitting with your feet on top of him, next, youo're in the other room, maybe asking him whats goin gon in the movie, while you do other things...

If you're a housewife at a young age, when life gets a little bit harder, and you still choose that path, he might feel something missing, or feel more stressed out, or feel like alot of pressure is on him, Money is the number one reason for divorce, second is infidelity. It doesn't matter if you ir your husband is a multi millionaire, or if you're still in college, it will still be the same arguments about money.
If you work, more power to you, You probably prevented alot of arguments over money, savings, responsibilities.
So, yeah try to avoid money conflicts.

If you want to be, the perfect wife, Food is always good. but to be honest, all food is the same to a guy, if it has fancy dressings or if you made it nicey nice, unless he's a four star chef, he probably doens't care, you'll notice, his plate be a mess, in no time.

Dressing sexy is nice too? Yeah if he has a clothes fetish ;), but most of the time, if he is 100% into you and your body, the clothes come off first. and its a wasted 20+ bucks.

I guess i'm saying, dont try too hard, to be perfect. Someone who asks a question like this, probably doesn't know, that once a male hits his 30's its all down hill lol.

Accept that life wont be perfect. Give your husband space, let him know he's loved, but let him have freedom, and remind him that there's important things in life to worry about. Make sure he's on the ball with a place to live, savings for children if you plan to have any. Make sure he trusts you, with sharing a bank account, and things with his name on it.

Me and my husband, share absolutely everything, from our incomes, to the little things like, swaping tooth brushes sometimes. Things like sharing Deoderant, shavers, and even the same used towel, dont even bother us. After getting comfortable, he even swigs out of the milk container, and keeps his shoes on the couch.

So yeah, all you have to know is that things change, and you should accept them with an open heart.
Because trust me, he'll care less wiether or not you shave your legs, or if you put on make up, or anything too. it's less work for you.

Answer 3

Just remember.....most men are little boys by nature.

Let a man....just be a man once in awhile......I know that most of my relationships go bad.....just because.....I dont pick up the phone and call her every 15 minutes when I'm at work.

Or the Card I got her...isnt romantic enough..
Or the single red rose...wasnt a dozen.
Or I just needed to veg out on the couch for a couple of hours instead of going dancing.
Or....I just felt cranky....and wanted to wallow in my own misery for a few minutes without talking about my "feelings"!!

Answer 4

Every wife should know when to keep her mouth shut -- it may sound rude, but I think we "modern women" are so used to having the "right" to air our opinion everywhere that we have forgotten the true beauty and necessity of modesty, plain being nice even when we know otherwise (when you want to tell your husband his family is annoying, for example -- he already knows this and having you beat it into him does not help).

This is probably the least discussed but most important trait to keeping a marriage strong -- OF COURSE I am not talking about staying quiet on important matters or having wives be meek to abusive husbands. But for your average man and wife this is something that really is a long-lost art -- knowing when to just smile and not point something out that is really not a big deal and not worth your husband's hurt feelings....

good luck!

Answer 5

That not all marriages are perfect, and there is no such thing as a perfect man, or a perfect family. What's important is that instead of running away when faced with a problem which is inevitable in every relationship is to be able to talk about it, work it out, and compromise.

Answer 6

That there is no prince charming. A good marriage is a friendship. Not a never ending romance. Girls need to be more realistic, you won't hold hands for the rest of your lives. Things become more calm. Don't get all worked up that they don't bring you flowers every day. Girls are girls and Guys are Guys.

Answer 7

Where her husband is when he says that he is going out with the boys tonight - no wives invited - especially if it's more than once a week or more than 3 times in a month!

Answer 8

For men, sex is a need, like being very thirsty and needing a drink of water. Did you know by the time you know you are thirsty you are already dehydrated? Women have our needs too, but it's important to remember that sex is not a weapon, it's an honor.

Answer 9

She should know that her place is at home, in the kitchen. She should know to obey and serve her husband faithfully. She should not criticize her husband for his indiscretions with the young men at the health club.

Answer 10

The same thing that every husband should know; always make your spouse feel secure in the relationship. That no matter what you will never betray your spouse.