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Aright, let's get down to business. I am a 13 almost 14 year old home schooled girl. I am taking 9th grade courses, but I am only suppose to be in 8th. But we talked to our main school, and they said that I could skip 8th and go straight to 9th (I am a very good student and my grade are awesome). So I am a 9th grader. Making me a Freshman.

Now that I told you that I can tell you my question. My dad does not want to let me play high school hockey because I am only an 8th grader. News flash dad: I am a freshman now. And I do not want to miss my freshman year of hockey. No way. I am going to play all four years of high school. Weather he likes it or not. But I need to persuade him to let me play. I was thinking about an eassy since that will help him remember that I am a over average student. What are some key points I should state????? I really, really need your help. Because I am going to play even though I am the only girl.

2006-07-29 10:10:17 · 7 answers · asked by Hockey Girl 4 in Sports Hockey

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Is your dad's objection that he's concerned for your safety because you're going to be playing with kids -- mostly guys -- bigger than you?

Or is he concerned that high school is a new academic level and he wants you to do well academically?

Start by keeping in mind that regardless of how much you can bring it on the ice, honey, you're always your daddy's little girl. My dad came to one of my games once... *once*, and had to leave. It was just too hard to watch me out there, playing hard and fast with a bunch of guys who weren't pulling punches with me, even if it was non-check.

Your dad still sees you that way, and always will. It's OK... and part of being a dad and you being his daughter, and the best thing you can do as far as that goes is remind him you're a good hockey player and you know he's worried about you and you understand and appreciate it.

As far as the academics go, I think writing an essay is a great idea. It reminds him you're serious about your studies, and you're smart, and shows him that you can be both an athlete and a scholar.

Maybe looking on the internet for some statistics about kids who participate in high school sports and have higher academic scores as a result? Quote some articles that you find?

Particularly with girls, there's a strong correlation between participation in sports and self esteem. Find some articles about that, and quote those. You could remind him in the essay, using quotes and examples, how participating in sports also builds character, teaches important things including discipline and persistence and teamwork.

Finally, in addition to the essay, suggest a compromise with your dad: if you maintain a certain grade point average, you can continue to play hockey. If your grades drop, you agree to quit until you improve.

Hope that helps, and good luck. I hope you get to play!

2006-07-29 15:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by lotusice 4 · 1 0

Everything everyone said before me is true and on the money. Hockey will keep you in shape,sharpen your mind and give you the personal strength and poise to do anything in this world.

You want to play, your Father is concerned, you probably have a coach. Work together! Make a contract if you have to, ie: I'll keep my GPA above 3.2 and make all practices and games and get 7 hours of speep a night. Your coach can help, being the only girl on the team your coach is going to have to also be your biggest supporter on the team. To help work out the logistics at least.

Being the only girl on the team you will have to earn the respect of all the guys. You will have to compete with bodies that have a size and social conditioning advantage over you. Once you have earned your teams respect you will have to do it for every team you face. Don't kid yourself you will be a target. The higher up you go in compition the bigger the guys will get and the bigger the size difference will be. You don't mention what position you play. My female cousin played boys lacrosse through HS and got a tasty scolarship at an Ivy League college. She played goalie, it is far easier for a girl to play goalie than other positions on a mixed team.

Think seriously about finding an all female team that meets your competive requirements as soon as you can. DO NOT underestimate the physical toll playing as a120- 130 pound woman against 170 man will do to your body in the long term.

Good luck, You are what those of us in the 70's were hoping for when we were fiighting for Title 11 money. Whatever you do KEEP PLAYING!

2006-07-31 12:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jane B 3 · 0 0

I Used to play with a girl who played 1 year of high school hockey now she plays on a Elite girls travel team and is going D1 in the fall. My tip for you is to tell your dad that high school hockey is more then a learning experience and as a freshman depending how good you are and the team is you most likely wont get too much playing time. I would also recommend playing on a girls travel team after a year or 2 of high school. High school practices are very intense and will get you into great shape. If you perform well on a girls travel club it will get you exposure to alot of schools. That is what the girl i know did and now is going d1 on a full ride and playing in the new york empire state games and is getting looked at for the U.S national team. So simply tell your dad that playing a year or 2 of high school hockey will get you into shape, you will learn alot and once you start competing against girls you will be at a higher level.

2006-07-29 22:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Trevor 2 · 0 0

I need a little more info to out. Will you be playing on the boys or girls team? You say that you are 14. Do you realize that if you play varsity that you will be playing against people that could possibly be 4 to 5 years older than you? There is a huge physical and emotional difference between a 14 year old and 18 year old hockey player. If you are a 5'2" 125 lb. girl and want to play boys varsity vs. a 6' 200 lb. 18 year old boy, then I say that your dad is right. Make sure that you are physically able to do it.

2006-08-02 10:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by oldtomato 3 · 0 0

Let him know that this is really important to you and taking hockey away from you would be like taking something he loves away from him. State something really important to him in that space. Tell him hockey is a great sport and let him know why you like it. Never criticize him or make him feel like he is doing something wrong. Then he will just get madder. If nothing goes well, ask the coach to talk to your dad.

2006-07-31 10:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The gal before me has made a good point, But I say this.
Tell him you are going to college and that if you play all 4 years that it might be easier to get a scholarship so he does not have to work his butt off to pay for your college education.
Start showing him the costs of a 4 year degree at accredited schools and I bet you he might start rethinking it.

2006-07-31 08:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Biker 6 · 0 0

Participating in sports helps build self-esteem in girls.
Women's ice hockey is a growing sport, and you could potentially get a college scholarship if you are really good at it in high school.

2006-07-30 20:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by ziz 4 · 0 0

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