this is something about psychology...anyone knows?

Question

WHat If a female suffered in her childhood from a lack in caring and love from her mother particulary,..how does this affects her personnality?....in another word her mother did'nt show her any love never kissed her ,touched her, huged her....

Answer 1

I imagine that the woman would have similar traits when, she herself became a mother. As people often "turn" into their parents based on examples when growing up. On the other hand, this isn't set in stone, as there are some people who make a conscious decision to not do something, or to be a different kind of parent than what they had. Sometimes these people go too far the other direction though and become over protective over their children.

A small example of this is my wife never got all the clothing she needed/wanted for school. As she has become a mother, she has decided (and reminded herself repeatedly) that she will make sure our kids have ample nice clothing as they are growing up.

There are other more significant examples of mothers who were abused as children and have not only made the conscious choice to not abuse their own children, but have made the choice to have only one or no children at all.

The examples your Mother sets for her daughter also could bleed over into relationships with friends and life mates as well.

Answer 2

Sure fuc$ed me up, spent the rest of my life looking for the love I didn't get at home. And the women that I have known had a hard time showing any affection. My daughter in law repainted a bedroom 1 day after finishing because her mother didn't like the color, that is the crap that you do when you feel unloved.

Answer 3

Affective disorders and abandonment issues might be strong.
Depends on if the girl got affection from other sources. She may react by trying to get affection from men by being promiscuous or turning to prostitution. She may likely have trouble in connecting with people to be friends, others may feel as though she has a wall around herself that she doesn't see/feel, and she may focus on being perfect trying to get approval that won't come from her mother.
I think from the wording of your question, you already guessed most of what has been suggested here.
Good advice is to listen to her and be there for her, see if she will talk with a counselor, alone or with you present depending on her needs.
Hope this helps!

Answer 4

Feeling of rejection and abandonment. Also causes difficulty in relating to her own children. Can cause her to seek desperately that which she was denied as a child.

However it can be used as a GOOD tool - when dealing with others you look back on what was not given you, and you put yourself in that persons shoes and try to give them the things that were denied to you. You learn that you could never do to another human being what was done to you, and it makes you more empathetic towards others.

Answer 5

It's called an insecure attachment--it makes babies withdrawn and they often freak out when they're touched because they get used to a low level of affection and stimulation and when somebody touches them, it's too much to handle. It also causes separation anxiety and social anxiety. It's serious and can cause terrible psychological problems--it can stunt development physically, emotionally, and mentally and can cause mental illness.

Answer 6

I am not a psychologist, but I guess maybe people who were treated that way might treat others that way too, but they can change that if they work on it. Also, maybe either needy or very independent. I'm not sure. A good book is "Changes That Heal" by Dr. Henry Cloud which might help you.

Answer 7

I heard a guy psychologists say that they turn out gay/ lesbian because of that a few weeks ago on that late night talk show, forgot its name. I dont know tho'.

Answer 8

This can cause feelings of rejection and insecurity.

Answer 9

it depends