should i lose my virginty with my bf?

Question

hey

Answer 1

So many questions here. How long have you been dating? How old are you? Do you think you are ready? Don't do it just to do it. such a special thing, you will remember it for the rest of your life. No rush. If you are asking you must not be sure, so the answer is NO, just wait till you have no questions. You will know when it is time. There will be no question.

Answer 2

Why do you want to lose your virginty if you aren't married? Don't you want to save yourself for marriage? Don't you want to get married and be able to tell you husband on your wedding night, that you were pure and that he is the only one you have been with and will ever be with? I think that is the best idea. I made this decision a long time ago and refuse to get into any sexual relationship with males. I think it will make your wedding night all the more romantic because you will both be giving each other a present. A special present. Yourself. Think of it this way. When it is close to Christmas, you know you are going to get presents, right? Well you don't want to know what the presents are until Christmas morning or you will spoil all the fun and surprise. That's the way sex is. Your wedding night is like Christmas morning. Don't open your gift before the day you are married. It's special to you.

Answer 3

LOL OK...I didn't know that there was an age you had to be before you lose your virginity!!! You people are all nuts!

Here's my advice sweetie. You need to do some serious soul searching and think about what will happen if and when you do engage in intercourse with your boyfriend. There are many consequences, as I know you are already aware of. Taking into consideration that the experience tends to be painful the first time, is he the one you can trust to be gentle and caring? Just factor all that stuff together and see what you come up with, unless you're not old enough. lol

Answer 4

How old are you? If you are still in high school, try to hold out. You are too young to worry about that kind of stuff now. Once you have sex, you never can go back and it brings on a host of other issues (pregnancy, disease, reputation).

If you are even asking, I think we know the answer is no, you should wait.

Look, I'll give you some advice my dad gave me-"All men are dogs. Some are better at hiding it than others. Your friends are dogs, your uncle is a dog, the neighbor is a dog." Meaning men, especially the young ones, are almost always only looking for one thing. You don't give it to them, and they leave, then you know they never cared about you in the first place. You go ahead and do it and then he brags to his friends, then you know he never cared about either.

If you really think this act will be about the 2 of you and your relationship and you are in love, then it might be something to consider. But not if you are still in school.

There is no shame in graduating a virgin. I am planning my high school reunion and we STILL talk about the slutty girls. A bad reputation never leaves you.

Answer 5

I say no wait til you get married. I think that the best part of a marriage is the first night your with your husband. I mean your virginity is something special. But if you feel that you want to lose it do it with someone that cares about you and wont leave you once he gets what he wants. And make sure you are prepared and know the consequence's of having sex. Are you ready to be a mommy if you get pregnant?, Is he safe enough that you won't end up with STD's just think about it and be sure that that is what you want.

Answer 6

If you give your virginity away to someone who has not promissed to take care of you for the rest of your life, then you lose the opportunity to make that event the romantic occasion it was meant to be.

Someday you'll want to get married. Maybe to your boyfriend, maybe not. But, wouldn't you like to give that gift to the person you'll love forever? Its really the only exclusive gift you can give to anyone, and you can only give it once. Don't waste it. Hold out for a proposal.

And there's an awkwardness to your first time that is worse without the complete and absolute trust built through a solemn public vow of faithfulness.

Believe me, its worth the wait!

Answer 7

ABSOLUTLY NOT!!! if he really loves you he wont care if you make him wait. ive seen WAY too much heartbreak cus a girl "felt like the time was right". they almost always end up pregnant. and its not just gaining weight and the pain of child birth, but then theres another HUMAN BEING that needs to be RAISED and nurtured. plus he might give you an STD. or you could just have sex w/ him and then after he got what he was after hell leave you. and having sex isnt just physical. it mentally and emotionally takes a HUGE toll on you. besides whats wrong with being a virgin? wear it with pride. anyone can sleep around but it shows what a strong and smart person you are to wait for mairage. plus, if you do have sex now years later you wont have that special "first" with your husband. it will just be something something to compare to the other guy. and your husband wont like the fact that he "shared" you. your too special for that. and if you do get an STD, treat it and then feel fine you might not be. some STDs can affect your reproductive organs PERMANENTLY. meaning you might not be able to get pregnant years later when you want to, or if you do you might not be able to carry it full term. or the baby might be born with the same STD it its system to change it for the worse. sex isnt just a "now and in the moment" thing. it has consequenses. dont do something youll be ashamed of later. you can always just choose not to but you cant rewind and undo something you really wish you hadnt. the fact that your waiting long enough to get advice from others tells me that you already are thinking that it isnt the best idea and your not sure that you want to. good for you. now stick to your guns about it. saying "no" is awsome but if a week later you say "yes" its kinda pointless. its your decision and your body that wil be afected. dont let anyone pressure you into something you are unsure about. if your boyfriend really wants sex, he can get it anywhere. thats his body to be messed up. dont let him talk you into something you dont want just for the sake of his instant gratification.

Answer 8

ummm, no, wait til ur married!

Trust me and hear me out when I say that, while part of my reasoning is religious, an even bigger reason is my personal experience. ..At 17, I know the feeling of thinking ur in love with the guy ur going to be with for the rest of ur life and wanting to take that final big step, but you never know what it coming or where each of ur roads might take u...not to be pessimistic, but they'll PROBABLY take u away from each other rather than a happily ever after...and then, the regret of even considering taking that step is unbearable...don't put urself through that, chika, you deserve better for ur first time!

Answer 9

It is best to keep your virginity until you're married. When a person has sex out of marriage there is mutual sharing, but nothing to bind the two together. If you wait until marriage you will find true happiness and you will not feel broken if you and your boyfriend break up. Its complicated, but that is the best i can explain.

Answer 10

How old are you? Do you think you are ready to take the big step?
Ask your self what would life be like if you really do it? Suppose something goes wrong, then what? who would be the one to blame. My suggestion is that if you don't want to just say no. If you are pressurised by any one even then say no. Its your decision at the end of the day. Also it is always safer after marriage.