My fiance just broke up with me for a bunch of reasons and now he's telling me if I want him back I have to prove it by going to college, getting a full time job, basically getting a lot of my **** together. I understand he's trying to help make me a better person but isn't that a little much. PLus I'm not a school person matter of fact I really don't want to go to school. Do you think I might do all this stuff and him and me will still have tons of problems??
2006-07-29 09:37:23 · 13 answers · asked by MelC 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No matter what you do he will always find a problem with what ever you do. So you could do everything he wants you to do and he will find something new to say and honestly you really don't need that in your life find someone that loves you for you and wont try to change you or make you into someone they wanted you to be and you will be sad for the rest of your life. I would look for someone that loves you cause of you being you:)
2006-07-29 09:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Becca 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do YOU want to do? It sounds like he just doesn't want you lying around all day or hanging out with friends partying or whatever. Is he older than you? Maybe you two can compromise. How about a trade school? No offense to you, but with the little bit of information you gave, I get the impression that maybe you just are young and just not ready to get your **** together. If that's the case, you are probably not ready to be engaged. But, if you are serious about being engaged, sounds like you are going to have to get busy. So you have a choice to make. And I don't think that just because he asks this of you, it means you will have tons of problems. Unless, he is the kind of guy who will never be satisfied, no matter what you do. In that case, you are better off without him.
2006-07-29 16:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy in school and you don't want to be there, you won't do well, although I can understand him wanting you to get a job and contribute to the partnership. Talk to him -- there are plenty of professions that don't require a college degree. If he won't budge, it's not meant to be. Find someone who loves you for who you are.
2006-07-29 16:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bunny*Run 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who go to college have better saleries and basically, a better life. Do you want to be a bum for the rest of your life or a well paid civilized person? Think about it. I think it's worth it.
2006-07-29 16:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by jvgough82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well fist of all you should do these things for yourself not for him.Well what about comprimize? What is he gonna do support you , stand by your side every step of the way.How is this gonna make your relationship better?Maybe take a few classes n a parttime job dont over wlem yourself...........HEY What has he done for you lately?
2006-07-29 16:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by chantelle_s_l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you guys have different values. hard to say if you will have problems, but he shouldnt expect you to go to school if you don't want to. working full time is another thing, if you expect him to support you. sooo- i guess if you don't want the same things that should tell you that there may be some issues in the future
2006-07-29 16:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by patch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it for him, do it for YOU. Get the best out of life that you can get. it sounds like he just wants the best for you and that is great. But if you do something that you don't want to do sor someone else, you probably will just end up resenting him when the going gets tough,
2006-07-29 16:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by free2praise76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't that much, believe me. If you love him, you will do it for him. Err, no... sorry, not for him: 1st and 1st, for yourself!
Be happy that you have someone to encourage you in all this.
I never had a truly supportive boyfriend who'd care so much about me as your fiancé does for you.
You are a very lucky person.
It is definitely worth it.
2006-07-29 16:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those things are not something you can force someone to do. Dont waste time with him. He wont appreciate it and you will be unhappy. Move on do what you feel is best for you.
2006-07-29 17:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by omsuperhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the military.
2006-07-29 16:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋