MAYBE SUICIDE *IS* THE ANSWER FOR SoME PEOPLE, LIKE ME?

Question

I HAVE ONLY BEEN ON ONE DATE, AND MY DATE LEFT TO "GO TO THE BATHROOM" AND NEVER CAME BACK. I LIVE ALONE IN A BASEMENT APARTMENT AND I TRUELY HAVE NO FRIENDS. I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT SUICIDE SEVERAL TIMES AND I AM JUST TOO SCARED TO DO IT. IS THERE HOPE FOR ME? IM NOT TRYING TO GET SYMPATHY BECAUSE I KNOW IM UGLY, AND NO WOMAN SHOULD HAVE TO LOOK AT ME, BUT AT THE SAME TIME I REALLY DO HAVE A LOT TO OFFER BUT I FEAR THAT NO ONE WILL EVER KNOW BECAUSE OF THE WAY I LOOK. ANY HELP IS APPRECIATED

Answer 1

Well, that's to bad--that you think so. I think everyone is beautiful. Inner or outer. Don't do it. It's not the answer.

Answer 2

Suicide is permanent. You never get another chance to reconsider. It is also bad karma, and your next incarnation will have to bear this burden. There is no free ticket out.

I won't bore you with platitudes about how there is someone for everyone, because in your state of mind, you won't swallow it. Having spent a LOT of time just where you are now, I can tell you, with full certainty, that you will not feel this way forever. Things will improve. This deep blackness you feel swallowed by is as much brain chemistry as it is a logical reaction to your circumstances. Give your brain a chance to gain it's balance. Dwelling on your circumstances not only ELIMINATES the chance for you to reverse your situation, it holds you down.

Get up. Move. Find something to do. Go bowling. Ride a bicycle. FORCE YOURSELF TO DO IT! It won't be easy, but it will distract you long enough to give yourself a respite from you woes, and just maybe you'll feel a tiny bit better afterwards. You'll definitely feel better while you're doing it.

If all else fails, call suicide prevention. Having someone to talk to can really help lift the weight.

Answer 3

Hell no!!! Suicide is NEVER the answer. Weither your fat, skiny, old, young, ugly or beautiful your still a gift to and for this earth. There is always that ONE someone who is right for you, maybe your just not looking in the right places. Go to bars become social, interact with people, join a club or something. Just because your date ran off doesn't mean your not good enough, that skank was probably a whore anyway. Just be happy with who you are, once you do that you can do anything! Don't look yourself in the mirror and say your an ugly person or your fat or anything like that. Say, well it's another day on this beautiful planet and I'm happy with who I am and what I do. Be confident in your self and be strong, you know you can do it. If you must, go to the roff and scream something out loud, believe me it WILL make you feel better, I always do it when I'm feeling stressed. Believe me, just believe in yourself and be happy. You don't have to have a partner to be happy... you don't.

Answer 4

Many philosophers have debated the morality of suicide. Some say that it an inherent right of a person to kill themselves if they want to. If a person owns their own body, they should be able to do with it as they please.

On the other hand, by killing yourself you would rob someone else of the happiness you would have given them had you lived. So the real question becomes, "What can you do to make others happy?" If the answer is nothing, then it would be moral to commit suicide. However, it would be VERY rare for such a response to be true so in your case and most others, it is not moral to commit suicide.

I suggest buying something nice that will make you happy, read a good book, take a walk and do something you enjoy, exercise alittle, volunteer for a charity, but most importantly you must remember that by making others happy, you become happy yourself.

Answer 5

No do NOT commit suicide!!! You would hurt sooo many people and life is too precious to just give up. You will meet a girl. That girl who went to the bathroom was a selfish coward who just couldnt be honest enough to say she wasnt into you. Maybe you could try a dating web-site...like Match.com? Believe it or not there are women out there who do NOT care about looks - and there are also women out there who could look at you and believe you are the most beautiful thing they have ever seen. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I truly believe you will find someone. Do not give up and remember that you must make yourself happy as well.

Answer 6

I don't believe that you should commit suicide. I value all life. And so dose God. You live in a basement apartment because it is cheap. You live alone simply because you don't have a room mate. You may never be married, or you may. That is not a reason to kill yourself. That "I have to go to the bathroom" thing has happened to alot of people. Including women. There have been guys that have gone out with me on a dare, or their friends had payed them to ask me out. I was very embarrassed and hurt. Please. reconsider. Here is my email. [e-mail]. talk to me. If you write back. I will give you my cell number. I am in Germany, but I will still answer the phone day: at work, or night: 2:30 in the morning. Please trust me.

Answer 7

Don't kill yourself! Get help! Call the suicide prevention hot-line! Don't know the number in your area, so call 411 information and they'll get it for you. Tell them that you need help and you need it now. There is always help. You just have to find it.

Everyone has something important to give to the world. Don't deprive the world of what you can give!

Obviously nobody can truly understand the pain you're going through. Everyone's suffering is unique. And this all probably sounds trite in the midst of the way you're feeling, but I've been there too, and killing yourself is not the answer.

Answer 8

Killing you because you have no friends or no woman is a cop out!!!! Try focusing on things that make you happy spending time with your family and maybe that special someone will come along. Don't kill yourself you are put here for a reason and only the heavens know. Look at it this way it's a better. Enjoy life, Focus to make you happy and everything will fall into place.

Answer 9

If you truly want a correct answer it is not suicide. I wish I had the magic words to make you feel better about yourself. There are lots of women out there that if given the chance, will look beyond your looks and see what you have to offer. I have lots of friends who have married someone who at first glance were not their "type." Keep your chin up and keep looking. Actually, I have found that once you stop looking and when the time is right your soul mate will come.

Answer 10

Suicide is not an answer it is the End! You had better really think about that some more. This world may suck but the next could be worse! Keep your head up. Time is an amazing thing and every day you hang on is a chance for things to get better.

Answer 11

That's never the answer....and believe me...your perfect woman is out there....there is one for everyone...and the only people who never find their's are the ppl who give up hope....so please don't give up hope....and if u think this is a cliche answer then u should hear my uncle's story....he lived in my qunt's basement for years...he never was an attractive man and he had only had a few dates that ended badly too...but he found his true love at the age of 50 and they lived happily ever after jsut like a fairytale....he didn't give up gope and neither should you...best of luck to your FUTURE(cause I know u'll have one)