How do you deal with a good friend drying? Cuz i can't deal, i am going crazy!!!!?

Question

I don't know how to deal. I find out two or three months to late, my friend past May 2 of this year and i feel like a disappointed her in someway cause i never got to say what i really wanted to say. She was only 21 years old. I mad at everyone because they said email me the news two months ago. I am like no one could of call me, i don't check my email everyday. When news come like that, aren't you suppose to give people a call not EMAIL....i just frustated and angry cause she was a beautiful person and she gone.

Go to this website it shows the live she had with friends and her family. She was only 21 years old. She was just starting her live..I can't believe this is real!!www.myspace.com/most_hated_432

www.myspace.com/most_hated_432. The site

Answer 1

Life is not fair sometimes. We dont always get to say goodbye. That is a fact. If she was your friend, would she want you to feel so much pain? I doubt it. If you have access to her grave, write her a letter. Lay it on her grave.Tell her your feelings and say goodbye in your own way. In some cultures, they write prayers on a piece of paper and burn it so the smoke will rise and take the message to those in heaven. Hope you find the answers you are seeking!

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Answer 2

During a difficult time, like the sudden loss of someone so young and vibrant, people can't always think of the right thing to do. They may have assumed that someone else must have told you, or they were too deep in their own grief to feel strong enough to make such a difficult phone call. It seems as though she was very active and loved by many people. I'm sure there were so many people who knew her that it was hard to remember everyone she knew.

You can't change the past; you can only move ahead the way you know that Jennear would have wanted you to live. She would not want you to give up, she would want you to enjoy the gift of life and to share the beauty you have within you the way she shared hers with those she knew. Her personal MySpace is still up, and people are sending her messages (http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=46015607 ). That might be a way for you to express all the things that were left unsaid.

I lost my ex-husband when he was 39 to drugs and alcohol. Our son was 7 at the time. He was a beautiful person with a very troubled history that led to his addictions. Those addictions are what made me end the marriage, but I never stopped loving him. It was really difficult and painful.

That was 8 years ago, and I still talk to him, and I still grieve for all the time he lost with our son. When he was younger, my son used to write notes to his dad, and we'd go to the beach and he'd put the note into the ocean (which his father loved) for the sea to take it to his dad. Now he hardly remembers his dad, and he never even really got to know the real man because the addictions took over. It is a sad situation.

So you can still express those feelings. Whether it's on her MySpace, or a note in the ocean or tied to a helium balloon that you let go up into the sky or some of the other suggestions given, or whether you just talk to her out loud -- it's good to let it out and not bottle it up inside you.

Just honor her life and cherish your own. I wish you peace...

Answer 3

My husband and I just lost our very best friend. He was only 31 and cancer took him in 1 year.He was kind, giving, thoughtful, an awesome person to be around. We watched it take him and it was the hardest thing to go through. He would take me and my kids places and we would fix dinner for my husband while he was at work, we were all very close like brothers and sisters. For my husband ended up taking 5 weeks of work off because he couldn't understand or handle it. Me on the other hand I have excepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior and He alone has gotten me through it. Our friend died at the end of March, and my husband still has a hard time. I just try to pray for him and be a support for him. The only thing I can do is tell you what has helped us and tell you that I will pray for you that you will be able to get rid of the anger and frustration. We don't understand why God takes the kind, beatiful, and wonderful people, but I believe He has a reason and one day (as long as we believe in Jesus) we will see them again. I hope you will find the right anwser to your question. God Bless You

Answer 4

Take it easy first. Take a deep breath and chill. Yes, you are right that you should've recieved a phone call and yes you have a right to be angry. But don't let the anger control you. Just relax for a minute and realize that your friend is probably looking down on you right now from heaven. Just remember the good times you've had with her and be happy that you didn't have to see in her pain.

Grief is hard but you can overcome anything if you just believe.

Answer 5

Death is as much a part of Living as being born is. Some of us have more time than others do.
As you get older this will happen more and more. Be happy for the time you had, and try to remember none of us a guaranteed any tomorrows. I know what it is like to loose a very good friend at a young age.. time will help! Move on and remember them for the good times!

Answer 6

Here's my shoulder for you to cry on.......and here are my arms to hug you and stroke your back. You're in a lot of pain now. I'm sorry for you, truly.

You're right, they should have spoken to you. They should have made sure that you knew. E-mail isn't enough and sometimes one phone call isn't enough either ( I have a similar story about my grandmother. )

If it helps, write down what you wanted to say to her. Hold a candle vigil in a place that you two liked to hang together ( or someplace that you know she would have liked, if you have moved out of state ). Read your piece, leave your candle, some flowers and your note to her there and that can become your special place for her. She will know, spirits have a way of being there.

Answer 7

This is sad. But it's not your fault. Consider this: People are only gone from this dimension when they die - they still live on inside us. What if you had never found out about her death, and just somehow lost track of her? It's really the same thing, because she's still around... just elsewhere.

Answer 8

you cant. a friend died years ago and when i think of her, i cant stop remembering the things i could have done. The only way, be happy you had a friend like that and treausue the ones who survive.

Answer 9

i found a website which is similar to myspace, http://www.friendscyberclub.com/ this website has all the features of my space like the photo upload, view pictures and profiles, forum, chat, message board, also there is a leader board, just like this one, see your name on the leader board, and you can also get to the top of the leader board, this site has both the features of yahoo answers and myspace,

Answer 10

Offer them some water and maybe some moisturizer.