Should a gay couple be allowed to adopt children?

Question

This applies to both men and women couples.
Do you think its right for a child to be brought up in an enviroment that could be considered 'strange'?
And leave the child open to bullying and other horrible things while growing up, possibly harming it for life?

Answer 1

Here is my feelings: I do not care. Why? Because, you have grandparents out there who are taking care of their grand kids because they are either deceased or they are unfit.
Now, I have been around a lot of children who are being raised by a gay couple and you know what? They turn out being very good, wonderful, smart kids. They have tolerance for other people, and they are well behaved.
So, if you are lucky enough to have two people that loves you and take care of you and you grow up in an environment where there are a lot of racism and hate in the world and you know you are loved and cared for by these two people, who's business is it that they happen to be gay? With gas going up, people dying, we are in a war with a country we should not be in a war with, with a suspicion of terrorist attacks, with EVERYTHING to worry about, this is surely one of the last things on my mind (or anyone else's for that matter) to worry about.

Answer 2

Yes I think they should be able to. Why not give them a try when "normal" parents of today can't really do any better. Do you think a drug addicted parent is the better choice for a child when a loving same sex couple want a child??? Face it that every child gets bullied and some more then others. If it's not the fact that the child's parents are of the same sex then maybe it's because they are chubby or funny looking. As for the bible says it's wrong. How can you say a loving couple can't raise a child when you don't really know. The child will have a more open mind and will be accepting of others. Are you afraid of that? Again it's begin afraid of what you don't know and what you've been brainwashed to think. People need to keep religious views to themselves when a child has a chance at a happy home.

Answer 3

Of course a gay couple should be allowed to adopt a child. What is more important, ensuring a child grows up in a heterosexual environment or ensuring a child is brought up in a loving environment? There was a documentary in the UK where a single famous female and a famous gay couple both were to care for a 'baby' (the pretend doll-types). The female, who admitted she wasn't interested in babies, failed dismally to cope, but the famous gay couple, who'd dearly love to adopt, did absolutely brilliantly. I don't allow my children to be babysat by anyone other than very close family members but, by golly, I'd quite happily give my three beautiful children to these guys to be taken care of for a week let alone a couple of hours in an evening; they were wonderful!

Answer 4

Yes. I am an adoptive Mother and a Step Mother. My sons weren't adopted by us until one was 12 and one was 7. Because they were not removed from their natural Mother until they were 10 & 5, they were considered too old for adoption ( no one wanted to take on their baggage) and my eldest son lived in the deeply unnatural situation of a Children's Home, which was kind but can never truly replicate family life. What the boys needed was Parents who loved & supported them.I am certain that a Gay couple could have done an equally good job. Kids need love, encouragement, boundaries, food, time, and an example of a happy life. My children had led deeply unhappy lives, which as a hetrosexual, white, middle class woman I found it difficult to identify with. I had never been exposed to prejudice or cruelty, and in fact my elest son related best to a gay friend of ours, my elderly grandfather and the cat! He is now happily married with two children of his own.Love is love you know.

Answer 5

Kids need Mothers and Fathers to bring them up properly.... causes major physiological problems losing one or growing up without one. Same as a single parent family, it happens yes and we deal with it , but its far from an ideal environment and although exceptional kids go on to achieve great things from difficult upbringings, most would have preferred a stable nuclear family to grow up in.

A gay couple cannot replicate this in my opinion. I have nothing against gays and I know people that are. Kids through the ages have always had a female Mother and a male Father....There is a reason surely. A kid needs role models, it needs a farther figure and a mother figure. While a gay couple can love each other I don't think they can bring up a child properly.

Answer 6

Please tell me what child is not brought up in an environment that is 'strange' to someone else somewhere. Every family has its quirks and dysfunctions. Besides kids don't know and don't care about adult relationships. Kids in so called 'normal' households don't even realize that their parents have a realtionship with each other aside from them, kids can only see that they are both their for them. They have no concept of gay, lesbian, or any other kind of adult romantic relationships, how could they? It is not something in their experience. At least until they are teenagers, and then every teenager is grossed out by the fact that their parents have had sex and figure it just doesn't happen anymore. How is this any different?

All that matters is that the person raising the child puts them first, loves them completely, unconditionally and every minute of everyday. That they raise them to care about others and respect them and who they are and the choices they make, I think gay and lesbian couples could be especially suited to doing that successfully. Every child should be raised to accept others and themselves even if they don't fit someone elses definition of 'normal'. Thats how you end up with successful adults, not by having one parent that is male and one that is female.

Bullying? You think kids with two parents aren't bullied everyday? Every chubby kid, or kid with glasses, or a name that rhymes with anything at all will be bullied. It has nothing to do with who or what their parents are, its about the parents of those bullies raising horrible children (probably what you would call 'normal' couples). The only way your argument would hold water is if having a male and female parent figure in the same house guaranteed the outcome of a wonderful, successful adult, and we all know it doesn't! I wonder how many inmates were raised in what you would call 'normal' households and how many were raised by gays or lesbians.....hmmmmmmm thats something to think about!

Answer 7

I don't think the "strange" thing is the reason that kids shouldn't be adopted by gay couples. I think that, if at all possible, children should be raised by both a mother and father because they need the influence of both a male and a female in their life.

Answer 8

No, nature science allows a child to be brought up in an environment where there is a male and a female. The history is full of dramas and tragedies of orphan children who lost either of the sexes.. Nature will not agree with creating orphan children without necessity.

Answer 9

i think it is fine for a child to grow up with the same sex couple, so long as the child is well cared for and gets all the love and attention every child needs and deserves surlely this is all that matters. children get bullied at school for all diferent reasons, for being a different race, for being overweight, for being to tall etc.. im not saying that this makes is ok, but if a child is going to get bullied then it will be bullied no matter what, if he/she is growing up in a 'normal' family or a gay one.

Answer 10

It is only wrong to allow children to be adopted by people who are unfit to look after children. I think that sexual orientation does not come into the reasoning. What should be a factor is any known sex offender (bear in mind that most offences committed against children are done at the hands of heterosexuals(note I say most, not all). Looking at the replies I notice the bands of homophobes shouting from their soap boxes, "off with their (gay) heads" Pathetic!!