How do diffrentiate between Love and Lust?? Why people get married? To make Love if so dont you think thats?

Question

Lust as well????

Answer 1

Love is a spiritual connection and Lust is a physical desire. Most people get married to solidify a love bond and for the legal advantages it brings.

Answer 2

A lot of people confuse the two, and many marry "for love" they think, when it's really lust.

Lust often makes us see what we want to see, rather than what the person really is. Hence, bad marriages. When they get to know each other, the lust evaporates, and with it, the illusion of love.

How to differentiate? Well, when you're in that state, you probably don't. Only time will help you make the distinction.

I once knew someone who, having been told that nice girls don't have sex outside marriage, when she wanted to have sex with her boyfriend, she married him. (Fortunately, it was annulled, and didn't mess up her life.)

One of the problems with the idea that people should only have sex within marriage is that it encourages just this confusion.

Answer 3

I was molested as a child too many times, and by people who supposedly should have loved me enough not to abuse me. That's not love, yes, it was sexual, but it was dirty because it was abusive. Love involves more than a physical contact of the genitals. Love includes a connection on the spiritual level, a connection on the intellectual level, and sure, on the physical level... A parody of what love is is very well describes in the Bible, even if you don't like reading it, this worth your lecture.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." (extract from 1Corinthians ch. 13)
I usually separate this text into two categories, one to see what love is, and one to see what love is not. and then I try to apply to daily life situations, like abuse, like selfishness, and so on.
People get married so they won't be lonely anymore... When you have a loving heart, or love in your heart, you have a need to share that love. It's a good thing. It teaches you to be an altruist instead of self-centered, and it teaches you to work as a team, instead of doing it all alone. Life is hard, marriage is like a means ( cab, taxi... you name it) to get you through it. It's a place where you can be yourself (at least it should be) and not feel unaccepted when you are weak, and desperate... It's like a security blanket when you feel insecure. It's a place of free expression and of unconditional love. It's a place where you recharge, refresh, replenish and take a break. Marriage takes work, communication, and personal involvement, so if you don't like to participate in an active way, don't get married.
Marriage consists in changing dirty diapers, waking up at odd hours in the night to feed the baby, taking your love by the hand and showing her the moon, whispering sweet words and not feeling weird about it, a place where you are accepted, and desired, and adored, and you are the hero. I could go on, and on...
Love is the fuel for marriage, sex is every man's fantasy come true... Sex is like a fire, if it's contained, it's delightful cozy and pleasurable, if it's not contained it destructive, ugly and painful!
Love is not all sex, sex should be all about love, though...

Lust concentrates on the act itself, bam-bam, thank you ma'am... and it's over. No feelings, no beauty, no promise of tomorrow. No romance, no moon, no stars, no dinner and wine. Two people bumping into each other, let their genitals 'play', and going on their way until the urge strikes again. It's like urinating... you gotta do it, and when you're done zip up and on your way. No toilet fetish. no "scent of a woman"... no poetry... just relief, until the urge strikes again... ha-ha...
Did I make a breakthrough? If not I hope you find it, you'll see what I am talking about.

Answer 4

that's fairly frustrating & is possibly why maximum of get divorced (alongside with greater women's rights) for the period of the previous 30 yrs. I do have self assurance love is greater of a technique than a emotion that sparks spontaneously. A sexual bump into, from the direct consequence of probability conferences in a lust filled environment (bar, club, shake homestead, video theater*), can carry approximately an eventual boost of love. although, there would desire to be atonement by the two companions for his or her previous way of life and a pledge to serve a greater advantageous purpose mutually. If this mutual popularity of spirituality does not exist the regulations of cosmic habit stress will ultimately consume the dating. those examples are basic to p.c. out all one would desire to do is check out adult males who finally end up relationship strippers they as quickly as patronized or word women who get into relationships with a married guy. those are the regulations of life and while persons/societies violate those regulations with the accepting smile of a baby-kisser at a million greenback fundraiser they have a tendency to crumple culturally. So at an identical time as elegance would make my black snake moan it may on no account substitute the realities of human life. * i in my view comprehend people who make it their habitual to %. up ladies at xxx video shops.

Answer 5

The difference between love and lust is that lust is honest and natural and you don't have to fake it...

Answer 6

People get married for lots of different reasons, least of all to have sex, you can do that without getting married.
Lust is only sexual.
romantic love is complicated and exciting and if you are lucky enough to find someone to share it with you, you know it and you cherish it.

Answer 7

nope making love is not the same as sex