Can someone be into sending homosexual men e-mails and pictures of themselves yet say that they are straight?

Question

well I have asked him if he is gay/bi and he says he is straight. He has been with men in the past when he was younger but says he is not interested in them "that way". He said that he was checking to see if he was "attracted" by sending the e-mails and when he felt nothing he knew that he was not Gay....this is not the first time he has reached out to gay men online this is the second time so I am having a hard time believing his motives. He told me that he would never cheat on me in that way and that he is not looking for sex. So I guess I am not sure what to do here I am confused he is my husband and I love him but I am willing to move on if this is what he is into and I have made that really clear...so why is he having a hard time telling me the truth. I have asked him over and over and he comes back with the same answer "I am straight!!!"

Answer 1

I would say the person is not totally straight, but doesn't have to mean the he is gay neither... many married men have affairs with other men and it's difficult to say if that makes them gay cause they are men who make their wives at home perfectly happy, or they are gay and have a wife and kids to keep up appearances...
If it's YOUR man you are enquiring about best thing to do here is asking straight forward what his sexual/emotional orientation and/or preference really is.... good luck

Answer 2

Why not? If he is insecure or proud (I know they are opposites, but both like to be considered attractive and it does not matter by who or he may be showing off if he is proud). It is an ego boost to be considered attractive by anyone. Then again they may just be prejudice and/or immature and are looking to be rude. Of course, curiousity is a great human motivator. Maybe he knows someone who is homosexual and is trying to understand, but cannot ask that person questions for fear of offending them. Anyway, these do not rule out the possibility that he may be homosexual or bi-sexual, but may be reasons he would do it if he is "straight". If he is receiving inappropriate pictures of homosexual men, then I would say there is a greater probability that he is homosexual or at least bi-sexual.

Answer 3

Happens all the Time,You just helped me get to level 4,this ? was the last 2 pts.I needed.Thanks and have a Blessed day.I was in a big hurry when I answered earlier,but this question really bothered me,so I will add to my answer.My sister,married a guy.They have been together for 6yrs.One Christmas they flew home,I had to pick them up at the airport.When their bags came through I noticed a rainbow colored strap that had bound their luggage.I ask her in private why did she wrap the luggage with a known gay symbol?She had no idea.Later when we got alone,she ask me a little more details and we talked.She said that what I was telling her made perfect sense.They had been having problems in the bedroom.He had lost the desire to do anything with her.She has done everything to try and get things back on track,but eventually yhey have become something like room-mates.I don't know what she is going to do in the future.But for now they seem content.I think with the info you have provided,that the oled saying "where there is smoke there is fire"holds true here.You will be forced to hit this one head on.You can A.insist on the truth,by asking him,if he wants to do-it with a guy,B.maybe you can make some-kind of arrangement such as an open marriage,which would give you and him more freedom with others,hence,STD's,etc.C.come to a mutual agreement to divorce,and move on.D.Just leave things like they are and don't sweat-it.,He may have had a relationship with a guy that help's him get horny,when he thinks about it.And may have no desire to go back to that actually,just fantisize about it.It's almost like marrying a virgin,you need to train him.I really hope this has spread alittle lite on your situation.It may not be as bad as you think,but definitly something for man and wife to sit down and talk about.Something that will also help is to do a conjoint,this is where you and him decide to confront some of the problems you are concerned about.You and he write down 5 things you like about each other and 5 things that you don't like about each other.Then sit down knee to knee in front of each other and share each others views.You may get a sort of reefree to keep things from getting too volital,such as a pastor or counsolor.Good Luck and most of all pray about it,God will truely Bless and keep you and yours.Peace!!

Answer 4

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Absolutely positively, if he's flirting with gays A LOT, and sending pictures (not just a one time joke), but often then
he's GAY.

Answer 5

a sraight man would not be sending a picture of himself to another man. if this is your husband or boyfriend then i would be very concerned.

Answer 6

Generally that makes them bi-sexual!

Answer 7

sure