I was in 5 year marriage with no kids. He refused to have sex with me by giving me excuses, brushing it off or simply saying no. He refused to go see therapist or doctor. Now that I am divorcing him, he says he will go see therapist and do what ever I say to make me happy. He was financially irresponsible always shifting the burden of financial responsiblity to me, he wasn't mean to my family. He was a very selfish person in many areas of our marriage. There was good times but I feel like I went through very bad mental emotional anquish while I was married to him because of the problem and his reluctance, neglect to solve our problems.(even though I asked, begged, cried, argued) We already divided money half and half with no lawyers. (Because he is so eager to, fighting to get money in half - the little money that we have) I am not sure how much the lawyers cost but what can I do in this situation? Can I sue him? What do you think I should do?
2006-07-29 08:47:42 · 11 answers · asked by whattodo898 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was so unfair in our marriage and now he is so eager to be fair splitting the money. I even financially supported him for one year, paid his debt etc.
2006-07-29 08:49:24 · update #1
He even took half of the furniture when he gave me no engagement ring and we spent my parents money which was given by my parents for wedding. We had no wedding because he didn't get any job that could get us by. (I was working alone)
2006-07-29 08:53:04 · update #2
Sexless marriage for 5 years
2006-07-29 09:04:53 · update #3
you are already sueing him if you have filed for divorce. haven't you discussed this with your lawyer?
2006-07-29 09:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you sue him for - I mean what would the basis be? Mental anguish? I don't think this applies to spouses, after all you are considered joined as one unit when married.
If you are unsatisfied with the settlement it is probably too late if you signed the divorce settlement agreement and the Court approved it. What makes you entitled to more than half of the marital estate? Everything that happened during the marriage you allowed or consented to by not taking action. I know this is not what you want to hear, but seriously. . . If the divorce settlement is not completed talk to him. Since you indicate you have so little money it may cost more to involve lawyers than you will get out of the results, but many offer free consultations if you feel you are entitled to more.
Personally, my advice would be forgive him for not being what you wanted, needed, expected. Forgive yourself for allowing the emotional abuse and for compensating for his lack of financial ability. Then move on. Obviously you are good at finances and can turn the little into a lot in no time if he is not there to drag you down. Even if you cannot forgive him, your getting ahead on the little you got on the settlement and him getting behind on the same amount should be justice enough.
Best wishes. Hope you find what you are looking for and do not hurt yourself in the process if it is retribution you seek.
2006-07-29 16:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not quite sure if there was a marriage or not, but Im going to go under the assumption there wasnt by the no wedding statement. If this was indeed a live in relationship without kids, there isnt much you can do other than sue him in small claims court for the maximum allowed in that dept. Basically you really dont need a atty for this, just go into court well armed for anything, receipts, leases, time frames. anything that will help you. This is exactly the type of cases that appear on TV s daily so watch them and get some ideas. Good luck
2006-07-29 16:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be no good reason to re-enter a relationship with this person. You already tried and gave him chances. He lived with no true respect for you. That is unacceptable.
Now that you are taking back control of your own life you have exciting possibilities ahead. It may seem sad now but my belief is that you will not regret going forward, but may very much regret staying and wasting more of your precious life.
I suggest that there is no need to pursue the idea of suing. Just break away and leave him alone, let it be simple and clean. You will soar on your own.
2006-07-29 16:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, when you see the judge in the end, its 50/50. You will need a lot of proof about where the money went and even with that, its hard. See a lawyer, you will need one anyway to protect yourself.
2006-07-29 16:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing its a decison you have to make, if you were not happy than you should not give in to anything he tells you, sex is a very important thing in a marriage and if your not getting anything and he keep brushing you away that mean that he has someone else, and he looking for a way out,
2006-07-29 16:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by MJS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about all that, just cut your loses turn the page and move on. show that you have class, don waist your time and more of your money. I hope this will help you.
2006-07-29 16:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bratso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can sue him for. He did not hold a gun to your head. You accepted his behavior and you financed it. Just move on with your life and kiss this looser good-bye.
2006-07-29 16:04:36 · answer #8 · answered by New York Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point of suing someone who has nothing.
2006-07-29 16:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by breeze1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say sue the hell out of him , and hope u get everything out of him
2006-07-29 15:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋