I have given my wife enough time to get herself together and end her affair. I see she has still kept in touch with him and denies seeing him at all, just chit chat on the phone. I have been covertly checking my wifes cell phone and found his home , cell and work numbers have been called or she recieved calls from him. He moved from his last address and would like to see if I can get his new home address some how. Then I would like to ride by his house on those days that things are suspicious. I am not planning to do anything, only seeing if she is there, a place I know she has spent time in the past. Being that I still have no trust in her and he lives close to where she works, its very convienient for her to see him for whatever and easy for her to get away with it. I am unsure if she does see him but I am not willing to move ahead with her until she stops talking to him and I am sure she isn't going over to his house. I really need to know. I'm not willing to toss her out yet.
2006-07-29 08:42:21 · 12 answers · asked by paulsexpress 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Really you need to do what is best for you and this way of life isn't good on anyone, believe me been there and done it before. All it does is make you a nervous wreck all the time wondering what they are doing. Trust is something that once lost the other person needs to build it back for you and if she isn't doing that then she doesn't care on way or other. If your not willing to let go then all I can say is hold on the best way you can but if she is going to change do you honestly think you will change her. You will spend the rest of your life spying and wondering.
2006-07-29 08:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Boy get your self together no women treats their man that way and i suggest that you let her know that. This stupid here she is with a man that is being patient about this and she still does stuff. At first before I read this i was going to say no don't spy but now i would if i were you this is not right. If it is true i suggest you do something that really hurts her. I'm not saying beat her but something that really hurts her emotionally
2006-07-29 15:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would'nt put yourself through any further pain.
That's your choice and hope it works out for you.
There are a few different people search sites
that you can get his new address(zabasearch.com).
If she is calling him still,she is likely seeing him
as well,and likely won't stop.Maybe you should
hire a private detective or ask a friend to help
you out in the investagtion.Then again,you
already know the truth deep down.
Good luck.
2006-07-29 17:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by lostgrandma1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should hire a private detective instead b/c your emotions may get the best of you IF you catch her doing something and you may do something you'll regret. for your own protection, hire someone else to do the spying. but i don't think anything is wrong with it. you deserve to know if working on it is worth a chance......however if you find out that she isn't cheating anymore then talk to her about the calls, come to an agreement and stop the spying. best of luck to you!!!
2006-07-29 16:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend just went through exactly what you're going through - she told him she wasn't seeing the other guy anymore, he didn't trust her and sure enough, she was still seeing this waste of life... they're still together in fact....
So - don't waste anymore of your time and emotion on your wife, the minute she stepped out on you, she left you, despite what she says to the contrary.
Move on, Bra - you'll feel better about it later on!
Aloha!
2006-07-29 15:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her why she is seeing him. Until you get to the root of the problem you are only hurting yourself by her actions. Nothing is getting solved. Forcing her to stop seeing someone still doesn't solve the underlying problem of why she is doing it in the first place. You need to get into some couple's counseling.
2006-07-29 15:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would sit down with her and ask her why she is seeing him in the first place , and ask her what did u do to her for her to hurt u like this , try to get into some marriage counseling that might help u and her
2006-07-29 15:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is still in contact with him then she is still sleeping with with. if you own your own home or have any tangible assets you should hire a private eye to get pictures.
if you have his home phone number it is easy to do a reverse phone look-up to find his address but i suggest you leave that to a professional.
2006-07-29 16:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are working too hard checking up on her. It's obvious you don't trust her. If she's still contacting him, she's still interested in him. It doesn't sound like a very good marriage.
2006-07-29 15:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by Carol R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF U KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT SHES STILL MESSING AROUND...WHY QUESTION IT ANYMORE? YOU HAVE ALL THE PROOF YOU NEED IT SOUNDS LIKE..HOWEVER, I CALLED CINGULAR AND ASKED FOR THE ADDRESS OF THE GIRL MY EX WAS CALLING, I THEN DROVE OVER THERE AND FOUND HIS TRUCK THERE,,,,EITHER WAY YOU SHOULD JUST TRY TO GET CLOSURE FOR YOURSELF...
XOXO JENN
2006-07-29 15:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by honi_dew02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋