...Then dared to ask me if it was okay for her to go out with him, even though she knew I still had feelings for him. I think there is a code somewhere that your best friend doesn't sleep with your ex fiance, or doesn't go out with the man you love most period.
Yes, I realize that we did break up, it should be over after that, right? But, I still love him. (yes, I know, pathedic)
The reason we broke up int he first place is because I got cold feet about getting married. I'm 19, and after a while it started to wear on me that getting married at this age and having a family is a bad idea, because there would be no why we could suport it becasue we couldn't even suport ourselves. He couldn't handle not getting mariried. Broke up, my best firend jumped in and had sex with him two weeks later, now they're engaged and she's knocked up after one month of them being together. And yet, she doesn't understand why I don't want to talk to her. Advise on how to deal, or just me being pathedic
2006-07-29 08:30:00 · 8 answers · asked by Ne-San 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is a code. Never consider dating anyone who has dated a very close friend or a relative, it's a sure invitation to be a guest on Jerry Springer. If things moved that fast for them, there was at least an attraction before your break up. You don't have to talk to him or her. Won't be easy. Go ahead as if you could care less. Cry in private and keep your chin very high in public. Later you will likely be glad both are gone. Find a new set of friends. Maybe in time you will be able to be around them without feeling uncomfortable, but that is a big maybe.
2006-07-29 08:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by brenda c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not being pathetic, and to be honest it sounds like you had a lucky escape - he just wanted to get married, and it doesn't seem to matter who to. And NO you do NOT get involved with your friend's exs, esp after just 2 weeks. You are better off without them both.
Now it's time to breathe a BIG sigh of relief that you didn't marry him, get out there and have some fun - you are just 19!! In 9 months when she's dealing with a baby and her co-dependent other half you will be getting a lot more out of your youth. Thank God for the cold feet.
2006-07-29 08:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by bertha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...lets c...u had a fiancee and u broke up wid him, b/c u didnt wanna marry him YET! well pretty clear..who wants to get married at this age any ways....so u n him broke up, yr best frnd went ahead and had sex n engaged n all...ok...there is a saying "one man's trash is other man's treasure" in yr case its woman! u broke up wid tht guy...good...now u cant pressurize any of yr fnrds to NOT have feelings for him....if u still had feelings for him...u shud have let him kno....and if he knew abt it....n still went ahead n had sex wid yr best frnd...thn i wud hold him responsible!! and its good that u left him, cuz according to me...all he wanted was S E X! he had it...n wait a while...jus give it a few weeks or months and watch em break up!! talk to yr frnd...u make frnds to keep them...not to break frndship wid em cuz of a guy/grl!! b/f and g/f are very much less important thn yr frnds...who stayed by yr side thru thick or thin!! so relax...tht guy is not worth it....have patience...and may b u'll get sumone who will love u more than any one else!!
SO Good Luck WIth It
N Get Back Wid Yr Friend!!
All The Very Best To You!
2006-07-29 08:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by ArYaN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard because you ought to not be spending time including your wonderful friends boyfriend. How ought to you sense if she slept including your boyfriend? ought to you forgive her? Friendships are very smooth and the believe became damaged. the first element is supply her some area. She is devasted. perchance sometime you need to be friends back, notwithstanding it will be awhile because it should be complicated for her to believe you if she receives yet another boyfriend she would not sense trusting to leave him close to you after what you probably did. i'm effective you probably did not recommend to interrupt her, yet friends assume one yet another and that is amazingly complicated to forgive.
2016-10-15 10:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by pipe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's a b*tch,she wasnt ur friend in the first place n maybe this was going on b4 u guys broke up,u'll never kno.
2006-07-29 10:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by khadeeja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut your relation with both of them and try to move on ... believe you two(you and him) were not good for each other and by the way good it happens after you break up it could happen when you were married .. have you see the movie '' hope floats '' ?!!
try to move on :d
2006-07-29 08:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by the girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously wasn't worth your friendship in the first place and i'd say good riddens..Sorry for your pain and i feel your pain
2006-07-29 08:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by preciousmoments1962 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously,she wasn't a true friend.she just took advantage of your friendship.
2006-07-29 08:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♥sonam a.♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋