i am married to some one who is in prison , he has been lock up for 2years now and he has three more to go i am seening some one but not happy should i just drop every thing and just be with the one i love?i cant find a job so i was thinking about moving to where he is located but i am very sacred!!!!
2006-07-29 08:24:25 · 10 answers · asked by liana h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do what is best for you. if you are no longer in love with the jail bird, get a divorce and then move on.
2006-07-29 08:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find yourself first before finding who you want to be with. Divorce the no good in jail, pack up, move out to a different place. Find a job, a waitress, a store clerk, etc. Get a life of your own ALONE for at least three month.
Now decide who do you want to meet, in what social circles and how. Taking a course in a state collage may be a starting point.
You are trapped in the past, and there is nothing worth while there, dump it and generate a new future.
Keep Smilin'
2006-07-29 15:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by HANAN. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide whether your husband is worth waiting for or not. 3 years is a long time to wait and something, God forbid, may happen in prison and that time may grow. Not knowing what hes in for, you may not want to see if this happens again once hes out. It already sounds like you have moved on but are looking for social approval or justification for doing so. Think about it as its not having what you want, but wanting what you have. Also, if you want something,youre willing to take a risk, if you want something bad enough, youre willing to risk everything. From experience with these types of cases, guys in prison expect their wives or girlfriends not to wait for them, no matter what they tell you, especially long termers. Good luck
2006-07-29 15:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to be comfortable standing on your own. You need to be with the person you will be faithful to and that you want that lifelong commitment with. If you aren't going to be true to yourself or your husband in prison, sound like you've already made your choice. Be straight and divorce your husband though so he can move on with his life when he comes out.
2006-07-29 15:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use you brain, think of security first. How are you going to survive? Dump the jailbird and go on with your life. Think of yourself right now, nobody can help you except yourself.
2006-07-29 16:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find the strength to move on, life is too short to be unhappy
2006-07-29 15:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by devika h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be with the one you love weither he is in prison or out love is what counts go with the one your heart tells you too ?? dont be scared be strong we will help go for the heart is
2006-07-29 22:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by eric w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose the convict and find a decent guy.
2006-07-29 15:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by homerunhitter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ; who do you want to be with.........if you love some one stop and look at your life.where do you want to be.how do you want to end up,regroup...and do what makes you HAPPY.
2006-07-29 15:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault he went to jail- if he was out he'd probably be cheating on ya'
2006-07-29 15:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋