how do you differ between taking charge and respecting the female in a relationship, or on a date?

Question

is it respecting the female by asking stuff like 'where do you wanna go?' or is does that make the guy seem undecisive?

Answer 1

Treat her like you would like to be treated.

Answer 2

They are one and the same. Being a gentleman is a very different role than a lady. As far as asking , let's put it this way. If your parents were getting you a gift. Wouldn't you prefer they had fore knowledge of your desires. A woman is no different. Some guys try to surprise a girl with things that are not to their liking and a girl wants to know how to dress. You are correct , women like a take charge kind of guy.As long as it is done with finesse

The fact that you ask this question means you understand that there is a balance. I'm sure you'll do fine.

Answer 3

They are not mutually exclusive concepts. You can take charge AND respect the female in the relationship.

Asking someone where they want to go is not necessarily an example of either side. It's soliciting ideas for planning an outing. You don't just drag someone along somewhere without any idea of what they enjoy doing or would prefer doing. It does not make you appear indecisive or "not in charge" at all.

Answer 4

Take charge in the first couple of dates but tell her why.

For example: " I am taking you to this restaurant because I think you will really enjoy the shrimp

Or " I can't wait for you to try my favourite dish"

Girls like it when you take the time to plan out a nice evening when you are first starting to date. After a couple of dates ask her what she would like to do.

Answer 5

You are asking a good question and are nearly answering it also,,,, its always a good idea to ask,,,,but to show that you have some ability to be a good leader, offer your lady alternatives,,,,do some research,,,,,"would you enjoy seeing a movie, or would you prefer to go to a concert.?' We can make more progress by doing the good things, like bringing a small bouquet of flowers,,,without fear of being indecisive. We show initiative by making allowance for our date to choose alternatives, rather than force her to have to make the initial choices. However, it doesnt hurt to politely ask, for her input, interests and preferences and keep a mental note of her preferences, learned during casual conversation.

Answer 6

just ask the girl what see wants she won't think ur any less of a man u take charge when like if a man walks by and makes a rude comment about your girl and you put him in his place got it so you can do both and still keep the girl

Answer 7

Probably depends on the girl, some want to be taken charge of, others want their opinions heard, trying to guess what your date wants is just part of the game (though a rather annoying part).

Answer 8

Instead of asking where do you wanna go, try suggesting something and ask does that sound OK. If she says no, then ask her for suggestions.

Answer 9

i dont like when guys just say "what do you want to do" or "where do you want to go." I like when they give me a few ideas of what they would like to do and share those and ask if i would want to do that, or if i have any ideas of what i would like to do. i want them to respect my opinion, but i dont like having all the pressure of deciding what to do, b/c if i dont really know them that well, i dont want to pick something that they wouldnt like doing.