Do nice guys finish last?

Question

I've always tried to be the nicest guy possible. But I'm 20 and havent had a serious girlfriend for 2 years. Should I become nasty because those guys seem to always have someone

Thanks for the advice so far. I dont bend to their every demand, but I dont treat them like rubbish or cheat or anything. I treat them with respect and end up alone.

Answer 1

No nice guys dont always finish last. I went through a stage where i only went out with bad boys. Most of them broke my heart and i found comfort with one of my best boy mates (whos nice). I ended up going out with him and we've been goin out ever since. He's the best bf i've ever had i cant believe it took me all those bad guys to realise how special he is to me !!

Most relationships start with being friends first. If your yourself then people will see how nice you are.

Remember : If you want the rainbow, you have to put up with a little rain!

Answer 2

I think at 20 you are worrying far too much about relationships, your still very young and have lots of time to find a lovely woman to love for life, why would you think that by becoming nasty you will win any woman's love, affection or trust, believe you me men who are nasty do not win, they lose because life gets the better of them and they end up on the scrap heap, just be as lovely as you are now and don't let things like a serious relationship at your age worry you too much, have a bit of fun and enjoy life.

Answer 3

I think this is one of those questions were you shouldn't be listening to the answers coming from women. It's not about nice or horrible, it's about the role you're putting yourself in. If you're nice and come across as a friend..that's all you'll ever be and friend is only one step away from provider. Nothing wrong with that, you'll have lots of girls who'll be your 'friend' but you won't be getting what you want. I think you're giving out too many options. The blokes that get the girls rarely offer much. Never become a provider!!! I hope I don't upset any females...but most blokes will identify with this. The Chinese say 'give lady luck her legs and she'll sleep in neighbours bed'.

Answer 4

A ha,
Yes we do. But that depends on were you draw the line for last. behind the latest man or the car, phone, dog.,and gold fish.
Just remember respect is a two way st, equal in attributes if 1 sided you will be trampled beneath foot. Women like to be seen for their strength's if you treat them as unable to look after themselves there will be constant clashes.
Just because your lady Say's "I am thirsty"She does notmean she want you to automatically fetch a drink. She will see this as weakness. fight a bit, if she means that much too you get the drink.
Hear this and remember it well!!!!
with women it about "mind" You have two and she want them both. will (yours) and control(of you).
yes you fetched the drink but collect a reward of your choice. letting her sit on your head is not your treat,its still in her flavour(not type error), get her to squeeze spots on ya back or clean ya office naked. KEY words Make her believe that its all her bidding and you are there in mindless capacity.but eespect her for it. The sexuality of women in a relationship should not be a bargain with, offered up like a 2dollar hooker when you comply to her every whim.
were the hell did all that come from.
Any way be yourself and have fun @ 20 serious is a word your mother should have warned you about.
Send me questions I will be your Guru
Respect is a two way street. of equal ground

Answer 5

It's not about being nice, its about appearing weak. Women want a strong male to mate with, this is not being sexist or having a go a women, it is part of what they all look for.
It is not the only thing, but it does contribute, if you appear nice is can be subconciously, of conciously perceived as weak, or that you are easily dominated.

If you want a girl then assert yourself, don't be a bastard but do be yourself, saying yes and bending to a girls every whim is not sexy

Answer 6

As Oprah would say maybe you're using the wrong type of bait or fishing in the wrong waters. Socialise more and speak all women regardless and you will soon have a gf b4 you know it. There's no need to turn nasty simply learn from other guys who are more successful and hang out with them and adjust whatever you see makes them successful to suit your character.

Answer 7

Keep being yourself! Never change for anyone and lets face it there is not many nice guys out there so I'm sure you will be snapped up sooner or later. I much prefer a nice, genuine, down to earth guy to a vile self obsessive pig any day - if only i was a little younger ;)

Answer 8

I certainly hope not!! Best thing is to be assertive..that doesn't mean aggressive, it's about negotiating with ppl so that you get some of what you want out of life without always being 'too nice'. It's the bestway forward with ladies, and ppl in general. If you are assertive you don't hurt any ones feelings and will be popular with most ppl.

Answer 9

Very much so. Girls cant stand nice guys. They have been programmed to believe that is what they want but it's not true. Nice guys are what they marry after they are tired of having fun with all the bad guys.

Answer 10

no dont become nasty, if you respect a girl she'll love you for it. the right girl for you is out there somewhere and i'm sure she'll prefer you to respect her than treat her like trash. good luck :)