i am 6 months pregnant and have been very unhappy in my marraige...when should i get a divorce..or what to do

Question

i am very unhappy and have to malk on egg shells everyday or we won't get along...i'm tired of being upset

my husbabnd and i didn't know each other that long before we found out about our pregnancy. we both decided the best thing to do is get married...but it doesn't seem to be that way. I feel alone in my marraige and not supported but i do have love for him , it's just slowly fading.

Answer 1

Leave now --it will only get WORSE after the baby comes!

Answer 2

You have got to first give him a non-confrontational hint that your marraige is going in a direction that is headed for disaster and ask him to find some time in the near future to sit down and be honest with each other.
When you talk, set the ground rules for the conversation itself. One good way is to have an object that whoever has "the floor" or is doing the talking has that object and the other can't interrupt. The one talking starts it with " when we are going through this or that or when you say this ___ this is how it makes me feel". The other needs to hear from your heart, when you respond to his/her statement, you reiterate what they just said "so when I say or do this, this is how you feel about it?" and they may confirm it or reiterate it again so that it's more clear, you then may ask for examples on how to improve or way's you've tried and maybe the other just didn't see it. Then give the other the floor and continue the same.
You dont attack, insult, disrespect or try to change them at that moment. You both must have a sense that you want the other to be happy and your compelled to have a good, stable relationship in which to bring this baby into. Your focus is on loving each other unselfishly and how can we prepare for this child, united.
These conversations may need to take place frequently at first and seem a bit silly, but it works and eventually you'll develop good habits of communication within your marraige that will last a lifetime.

Answer 3

Too bad you got pregnant if marriage was so unhappy. You need to make the break when you are ready. Baby coming along will add more stress to both of your lives. Only you can make that decision for yourself. Too bad for your baby. You people need to think before getting pregnant. There are ways to avoid pregnancy. Don't tell me you had an "accident". Sorry, I'm upset with the world on this. Think long and hard on your decision.

Answer 4

your hormones are out of wack when you are pregnant. Were you unhappy before you got pregnant? if not chalk it up to the hormones. Plus in a month things will change the first two trimesters are the worst. Wait till the baby comes and see how you feel then. He may be nervous about the birth process. A baby can cause alot of stress on a marriage. It is a huge responsibility. Good luck

Answer 5

I can tell you that the courts will look unfavorably upon a request for a divorce at this time due to your pregnancy, unless you can prove spousal abuse and fear for your life and your babies because of it. The courts look at your happiness as a condition of the pregnancy and will tell you to wait til after the baby is born and see what happens in this marriage. They frown on granting divorces at this point because once the baby is born, the stress is gone and divorced couples have been known to reconcile and get remarried thus wasting the courts time and money. Hope this makes sense, please hang in there and by the Holidays the picture will have changed. Good luck with your future

Answer 6

They way in which you are describing your present situation, is really shocking and worrysome too....particularly when you are using the phrase of making on egg shells.....pathetic really considering yours being pregnant. The most sensible thing you have now to make him reason with the dire situation and have some proper advise from your seniors too. Please don't think divorce right now, as it will heighten your problems so much. You are in delicate situation and you do need someone to support you to help you....and under the circumstances, your no-good husband is the most appropriate person.....however, you can consider the possibility of separation, if you have good financial backing.

Answer 7

I would suggest you stay away from any huge life-altering decisions like that while pregnant. The horomones that are helping your baby are making you more emotional and moody than you would be normally. If you still feel like the marriage isn't working out in six months, I would suggest marriage counseling, and if that doesn't work out, divorce. It is a tricky situation, what with your carrying a child and all. I wish you the best.

Answer 8

If you want a divorce then do it sooner rather then later. The longer you wait the harder it will be, and not just for you but for your child and your husband.

Otherwise if you really dont want to leave (as I suspect you dont if you love him) then sit down and talk to him or try a marriage counselor. Tell him that you are ready to leave him if things dont change. If he loves you he will at least make an effort.

Good luck to the both of you! Be Happy!!! Tomorrows another day!

Answer 9

You guys have some **** that you're both not mentioning, like stuff that really annoys you and so on. If you both want to work it out, you gotta talk it out and see if you both can try harder to make the relationship work. Don't blame, don't get mad, don't get defensive, just try to calmly talk about what the hell is making your lives miserable, and take any criticism without getting mad. If he's not willing to even try talking anything out with you, then you might need to rethink the marriage. But at least give it a try.

Answer 10

Have you been unhappy since you've became pregnant? If you have it may just be your hormones, if not I'd get out now that way it won't be as hard on the child.

Answer 11

Why did you not think of this before you became pregnant, you have another person involved now. You need to communicate and get into marriage consoling