My best friends and i have a sleepover and at 2:00 we decided to sneak out and take the car to TP some guys friends of ours houses. IN the process we broke 5 laws in MD:
1. driving without a licsense (still have my permit)
2. driving with someone else in the car (until 18 that is against the law)
3. driving after 12:00 ( " )
4. trespassing
5. destruction of property
when we returned home my mom was up waiting for us.
She called my friends mom and now i'm in a ton of trouble.
My sweet sixteen has been probably cancelled. My Dad is furious. I'm not allowed to get my license indefiniately. I lost internet and cell phone. And my parent's and my friend's mom's trust. that is the worst part. i wanna make it up to her and hopefully get her to forgive me and maybe get my liscene before i turn 18.
What should i do?
2006-07-29 08:17:10 · 13 answers · asked by soccerchic 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Suck it up and admit you were stupid.
Apologize in detail to your parents for all of the things you did wrong (list them for them) as well as how you made them feel when you acted so foolishly. (they were worried about you and then embarassed that their child would do such a thing)
Don't even think of putting this apology in writing- say it to them! Look them in the eye and tell them you screwed up. Also, except all of their punishment without question. Tell them you understand what they are doing (don't roll your eyes, don't hmmph at them, and do not argue)
Then, ask your parents' permission to call your friends parents and do the same thing all over again. Acknowledge that by driving with your friend, they may feel you were taking risks with their child that they don't approve of.
Say sorry. Move on. Don't sulk, don't cry, don't whine, and don't even think about turning it into something you can joke about later. (that won't come for another 8 years)
While doing the above sounds harsh, it is how truly sorry, and respectful people behave. I have a feeling your parents would really like to see you behave in this way. They are likely questioning a great deal they thought they knew about you.
Good Luck.
2006-07-29 08:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by artful dodger 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Follow her rules carefully. Stay off the internet, stay off the cell phone. Apologize in writing. Make it a real apology, no excuses, admit to doing wrong, explain why it is wrong, take your punishment gracefully. Do not under any circumstances, discuss it with your mom unless she brings it up. Parents do not like to be pestered and we can be just as stubborn as a teenager. Show you are responsible in other ways. help with housework without being asked. Never go anywhere without letting her know first. Always be home on time. Attend school every day and always do your homework. Show her you can be trusted in those ways and eventually, she will figure that you have learned your lesson and are able to act more grown up.
2006-07-29 08:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by ppqppq10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take responsibility for your mistakes and give it time before you can earn your parents' trust back.
By the way, if you're not allowed to use the Internet then how are you using it?
Just be thankful, I'M not your mom, kiddo. You'd have ABSOLUTELY NO social life for months.
2006-07-29 08:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You now need to be a perfect child for a very long time. Don't blame your parents because they discipline you because you did all these stupid things. You don't deserve a sweet 16 celebration, because no one believes you are "sweet". It will take a very long time for trust to be rebuilt, you will have to be patient and do absolutely everything your parents ask and more.
2006-07-29 11:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obey your parents....sincerely apologize, admitting your wrongdoing, but do not apologize over and over and over. This accomplishes nothing.
When i was younger, my parents always said: "Trust is lost in a second, but can only be regained very, very slowly."
This is so true. Respect them, obey them, and show true remorse for what you've done. Show them that you are trying to change, and that you want to be responsible. Only when you are habitually responsible, and show wisdom in the decisions you make, will their trust begin to build.
Also, apologize to your friend's parents...
2006-07-29 17:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to adhere to the rules of discipline...log off now will be a start. Makes me wonder how you are going to re-build the trust when you are still showing you cannot be trusted. They obviously trust you to have access to computer w/o logging on...
Show self-discipline and you'll receive the trust and privileges.
2006-07-30 09:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by AILENE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that will work is time and sticking to the rules. That is the only way for your parents to regain their trust in you.
2006-07-29 10:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You face the music - you knew what you were doing it is no good thinking about it now. You diod the crime do the time!
2006-07-29 09:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do chores without her asking...when school starts, give her grades to run for!! not much left you can do....oh yeah , apologize over and over...
if they took away internet, how did you post this message??
2006-07-29 08:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by [dANiiE♥♫]™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. And dont ***** up in the meantime. If you were my child I would have beat your as.s.
2006-07-29 08:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by J. P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋