broke up with my ex 7 years ago...and im still thinking about him everyday for the past 7 years. I didnt date anyone after he left. he was my first love. we still keep in touch with e-mails. he did call me twice this year. he even asked me when im gonna get married. tats really hurt me. he knows tat im single till today. few years back when i wanna talk it out he refused. said past is past. When he called he asked hows my parents is doing? advised not to fight with my sis and asked me to keep in touch since he was leaving to another country for work. It's not tat i want him back. i want him to have the best in his life. He' the only man who ever loved me so much. i dont know wat went wrong. cant get an explanation from him. And i just want to forgive myself for loving him too much and let him go. i still keep all the things tat he gave me. i dont know whether he still loves me or not? y he have to call me after 7 years? its too painful to continue my life...
2006-07-29 07:23:25 · 12 answers · asked by frozen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The reason you can't get over him is because you don't want to - if you wanted to you could do it. You have to think what was it about him that made him so good, and that makes you not be able to let go of him now. The chances are that it's something that anyone could offer you. If you're really determined to get over him then cut him out of your life, don't answer calls or anything, it's much easier to forget someone if you don't have to see them every day.
Maybe you'll never know what went wrong, but the point is it did, and you should stop obsessing about what MIGHT have been had you done things differently. The point is it didn't work like that, and that's the end of it. NOW is the time to move on and make a better life for yourself.
Good luck
2006-07-29 07:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mordent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u cant say he is the only one who ever loved u so much and stop at that. u havent even given anyone else a shot. u should really try and focus ur energy on something else and then try to move on. it is hard to start dating again but unless u do so u will not see what else is out there. u are probably comparing all guys to him which u shouldnt be doing and instead try to look at guys for who they are and not how they stand up to him. he sounds like a sweet guy but he has surely moved on and it is time u do too! i was in the same situation and for a few years i didnt date anyone, and until i started to mature and opened myself to others then only did i see some of the flaws in our relationship that made us break up in the first place. all i can say is move on and dont look back. dont talk to him for awhile and u will get used to not being so dependent on hearing from him. good luck!
2006-07-29 14:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you can't get over him is because you still stay in touch with him. You have to break all ties with him.Don't call him don't write him, don't even think about him. Everything that he ever gave to you get rid of. Everything that reminds you of him toss it,or you will just keep reminiscing about him. It's all in the head.
2006-07-29 14:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Troubled son 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop contact. It gets easier to let go when you are not calling each other and emailing each other. You sound like you really want closure but i promise that is not going to help. It is up to YOU to let go and move on with your life. You are responsible for your own happiness.
2006-07-29 14:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by cannon1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no how it is. how can u say that he's the only 1 that loved u sooooooo much if he's the only 1 u've dated? try to move on. Find another man like him. But make sure this time he loves u. WE'RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER!!
2006-07-29 14:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl you definitely need to get back on the horse. Find anybody else and have a quick,meaningless,sexual relationship. You need to show yourself that you are attractive to other men and get this pathetic loser out of your life..
2006-07-29 14:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is sooo painful to talk with him...don't do it.
Sometimes couples who break up, can continue to have some type of a friendship..but, its not for everyone.
You must put yourself first...you owe him nothing, not even "friendship."
You and only you, can make the choice...to hang on to the past...or move forward.
I suggest you move forward.
2006-07-29 14:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by swampfox conservative 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another man, you sound like a good girl masny men would want a loyal beautiful sex and sweet smart girl.
2006-07-29 14:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by boxing_fan_4_wlad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety I'm in this same situation except it's only been nine months trust me don't love nothin' that don't love you back that's why the next time i see my ex I'm letting him go!!!!
2006-07-29 14:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by cutie pie!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya live and learn toots, good luck to you and your future endeavors
2006-07-29 14:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋