I have been married for 8 years, my wife does not want to be with me. She met another man and has left me a total of 8 times to be with this man. The last time she came home i thought things would be different, but once again she has told me that she doesnt want to be here, but this time that guy will not take her back. Shes home with me now, but never wants to do anything. She sleeps the majority of the day and stays up most of the night. She is suffering from depression and has attemted suicide in the past. I ask her constantly on a daily basis to do things with me and our children, but she never seems to want to do anything. She is constantly on the computer and honestly the only time i see her happy is when she is on the computer. She doesnt eat at all anymore, maybe alittle here and there. I am worried about her, and still do love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her. What should i do.
2006-07-29 06:39:10 · 18 answers · asked by ttf101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, this is dramatic. My opinion is of you is that you're weak. That has made her take advantage, cheat on you and not play her role as a good wife. You hv to do something.
I would say divorce. But if you really want to still consider your marriage, take her to the psychiatrist. That may help her depression. Keep giving her encouragements, inspirations and be positive with her. Distract her mind from the computer with interesting things that you think she likes. It all takes effort, patience and sacrifices if you want to still be with her for the rest of your life.
Good luck.
2006-07-29 06:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by layla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is having an emotional affair. What is the factor of claiming that some thing is a deal breaker if it's not. You're just like the father or mother on the grocery retailer who tells their child repetitively "behave or I would possibly not purchase you a sweet bar." The child throws a tantrum by way of the whole retailer and the father or mother nonetheless buys the child a sweet bar. Do you wish to spend the following 60 years of your existence drowsing within the identical mattress as any person who's having an emotional affair if no longer a bodily affair. I would not. Even if it hasn't became bodily but, she is absolutely surroundings the foundation for it to turn out to be bodily. I would not confront her. I could with ease meet with an lawyer and get my geese in a row. And put on a condom so that you shouldn't have a youngster along with her. Staying on this form of a difficulty diminishes you to the factor that you are going to be distrustful while your Cinderellas comes round....and you are going to no longer be competent to be the great husband you'll be able to be for your Cinderella.
2016-08-28 16:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it is to love someone who doesn't necessarily love you back. Leaving seems like it would rip your heart out, yet staying does practically the same. What you need to do to get her to see you as a person and her husband is to be strong, not for her but for yourself. It's the age old saying,"you always want what you can not have." She walks all over you because she knows that you will take her back no matter what, and she is right, you have. You need to stand up and walk away, and although it will take sometime she will crawl her way back, if anything else you should realize this because she has so many different times already. Once you walk away and she realizes that you want more and that she has to take a step up in order to have you then she will. If she doesn't then by that time you will have already started getting over her and started moving on. Good luck and pray often.
2006-07-29 07:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a counselor for yourself. Your self-esteem is in the toilet. Why do you not feel like you deserve something better? Do you not deserve to be happy? My husband and I both have the understanding that cheating ONE time ends the marriage - no second chances. Cheating shows an utter lack of respect for your partner and betrays all trust in the marriage. To think you have allowed your wife to do this to you over and over shows you have no self respect. Please see someone that can help you before you have wasted any more time on a relationship that is going nowhere!
2006-07-29 06:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her to get some help ---counseling and maybe some medication!! It could make a world of difference. You all need to go to marriage counseling as well. If she is not willing to do those things, then honey, you need to leave. You have done far above and beyond what God requires a husband to do. You are released from the marriage, according to the Bible, when she commits adultry. You staying with her is your choice!
2006-07-29 06:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by jiffypop88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs help. Aside from the divorce question, she needs to see a medical professional for her depression. Only after she begins some sort of treatment can she really make sound decisions. At that point, if you still think a divorce is right, then do it. But for now, get her some help.
2006-07-29 06:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Vicki's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there! if she left u a total of 8 times....tats clear! she dont love u anymore. Sometimes we still can stick around with people who dont love us as long as we love them. But if she dont even care about the children then u should reconsider the marriage. i dont c y u still have to be with her. Life is short. its easier to say than done. u dont need her. u have ur children with you. do the best for them. u must be a very good man and she's taking advantage on it. Wake up dear. it's still not too late
2006-07-29 06:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by frozen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE you have got to get rid of her.if you don't this is gonna kill you in the long run.if she has depression then that could be grounds for you to get the kids in a divorce.you cant spend the rest of your life if she still cheats with this guy.just wake up and file on here before this makes you crazy.
2006-07-29 08:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by stevens_monroe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is........ how much are you willing to put up with? If you want to spend the rest of your life with a cheating wife, then except it. If you don't, you know the only solution is a divorce.
2006-07-29 06:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lindy357 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two words for you and this is going to be are you ready i said are you ready to the wife of 8 years i have to say this man has to give you one word and the magic words of DIVORCE PAPERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! there its all you need is to divorce the ***** she don't love you she don't want you then divorce the ***** let her be a cheating ho by her self let the other man put up with her nasty *** cause sooner or later he is going to see how she is to the fullest!!!!! p.s. : Her and my ex look like they should be a couple!!!
2006-07-29 06:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋