I have been married to a horrible tongued, cheating, possesive selfish, violent, sick man for 5 years and I want to end it as I have had enough and I am fed up of being treated used like a door mat. I can do better then what he gives me, and have only come to realise recently that I have to right by my child and me, the good thing is that we do not live together, he does not even have the keys to my home. I dont want things to get fired up and am looking for suggestions, I will not end it to his face as things may get a bit bad, I will do it on the phone, that is all he deserves, any suggestions please? I dont want to allow him to see my lil one as he is a unfit father. Please suggest as many things as you like as I am open to all types of suggestions, Please help. (ps this is how he makes me feel on a carm day)
2006-07-29 06:26:07 · 17 answers · asked by sweetlikehoney_73 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am in the same boat my hubby lives with me cheats lies like a rug deceitful but i have contacted attorneys & they r not cheap but get away i let mine go 7 years i beat @ the bush when he asks me what is it that you really want i get scared i have a little one 2 & 2 older ones so it is hard sometimes when you have someone else in your life it becomes easier i suggest you flle & have him served keep your mouth shut & taht is that & see him in court you can always go to legal services f k him maybe he is related to mine pure garbage good luck
2006-07-29 06:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
You should start by keeping a record of everything times, dates all of it any time he does something violent. Then file for a protection order. That way you have proof that he is violent. Otherwise if you just get a divorce he will get to see the kid. When you break it off it is suggested that you do it in a public place so that he can not hurt you.
2006-07-29 06:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that since you do not live togehter anyway it should be easy to tell him it is over.
However, it is not up to you to decide if he can see the child or not. That must be decided by the courts. They will listen to both sides of the story & will make a decision based on what is best for the child & not just what you want.
2006-07-29 07:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plenty, I wager. Marriage is an rather confusing proposition this modern day, i trust, because a) there is countless danger for sex outdoors of marriage (in reality better than in!) and b) the guidelines are so biased adversarial to adult males in words of divorce. If a guy isn't fascinated in little ones, or in the off risk he's marrying someone with better money than him, there is 0 aspect in marriage. i'm assuming we are speaking bout you the following... in case you adult males have sex, stay mutually, and so on., what's his motivation? He has each and each and every of the benefits of a spouse with none of the household projects. Why purchase the cow, properly?
2016-11-26 22:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve to be treated like this there are guys out there that will treat you better i know ive been through this before, tell him the truth be strong and show him the door your worth more than this.
2006-07-29 06:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by smurfette2001uk2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already away form him and that is your first step. I would see a lawyer and have him served with divorce papers. The lawyer can also help you legally protect your child from him also. Good luck
2006-07-29 06:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him any way u can he is not worth your time and he dosent deserve to see the child, just go , tell him < SEE YA > you can get help if you need to life is to short to be unhappy
2006-07-29 06:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lady D. J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some options:
"Honey,i've done a cosmetic surgery,and now my name is Hercules"
"Honey,i'll join the army"
"You're fired"
Sorry...just trying to make it little fun...but these matters needs "straight talks", my friend !...you can't keep suffering because you don't want to hurt "his feelings"; if he's got any !!
Just say:" Mr X, we need to talk,i really appreciate the time we had together,and i want to keep good memories and remain friends...and to do that , we have to split before we ruin our relation"..something like that..shoot straight!
2006-07-29 06:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sheefa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I did, "I want a divorce. My goal right now is to raise my daughter alone and get professional help so I can deal with my problems. You might consider getting help too. I just want you to leave us alone and let us get on with our lives.
2006-07-29 06:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by tlcnc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even bother telling him over the phone, i would just serve him with divorce papers
2006-07-29 06:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋