and things just start to get good with us he has played me befor what should i do
2006-07-29 03:48:45 · 43 answers · asked by miss tigger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I sympathize with your situation & I want to say I am proud of all our troops over there. Most of us can't imagine what it's like in that situation. But first of all ...you wouldn't be married if you didn't love him. And the problem now days is people have lost the true meaning of committment & the deep meaning of those vows. It is just too easy to say "I don't want to deal with this" & walk away. I believe people need to put all they have into a marriage to make it work...which means suffering through the bad times, which makes the good times even better. No one seems willing to sacrifice anything anymore for anybody. If things were good before he left & you both can get through this time of seperation, I believe it will make your marriage even stronger than it was. There are so many aspects to marriage...and compromise is one of them. Like another person said ...you could use this time to go to school...work on planning a great getaway for when he comes home....any number of things...but don't give up yet...because once you both come through this it will truely test your strength, devotion & love for each other. THEN, once he is home & it still doesn't work...then you'll know in your heart that you both tried your best. Always remember...a marriage takes 3...you, him & God!
Good Luck & God Bless!!!
2006-07-29 04:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by lovinlife 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Well he's probably not going to be playing you if he's over in Iraq, unless he's getting real friendly with the camels.;) But seriously, if things have just started to get good, try to make them stay that way--send him letters, care packages, there are a million ways to let him know you love him from across the globe. I know that insecurity can gnaw at you like nothing else, but try not to think about it, because if you do, it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy. I know all about it. And I'm sure it's INCREDIBLY stressful having him so far away when things just started getting good. Just try to keep faith in him, okay? Good luck sweetie, and I hope you and your husband have a long and happy marriage.
2006-07-29 04:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Casey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how long you have been married, but I am sure it is really stressful. Not just the fact that your husband went to war, but that you aren't sure what he is going to do. It is a really hard question to answer. I would just say try to remember how much stress he is going through being over there, and send him nice, sentimental things when you can. When you are able to talk or email, try to keep any frustration out of it. When he comes back, if you find out he has done anything with someone else, you will have other decisions to make. For the time being, try to be understanding and supportive
2006-07-29 03:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by going crazy!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are serving in Iraq as well. Keep busy writing and talking to him with e-mail. I retired from the Army and had five years away from home. The good thing is he will be with you again soon and when others down the road are still working, he will be able to spend lots of time with you while others are away. It takes two to make a good long marriage ... do your part and if he is a good soldier, he will be there for you just like he is there for your country now.
2006-07-29 03:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by Pey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you this, if my husband were in Iraq I would love him more, have you see the news, its horrible being there, I'm sure he is having a hard time, and he is desperate to be by your side again, what you need to do is preparing a lot of nice stuff for his return, when you love someone you don't need to see it everyday, think on the good moments you two share together, all the nice nights, and ask God to bring him back safe. I hope this helps.
2006-07-29 03:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by nemodelmar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that your hubby is in Iraq, I doubt he is "playing" you. Right now he needs your support and needs you to be strong. Be true to your vows, don't be like those shiesty women that cheat on their man while he is away at war, he deserves better than that.
Talk to him when you can, send him letters or email, keep him updated with whats going on in your life. Make sure you are keeping busy with your job, and if you don't have a job then get one because it will help tons. If you have kids, focus on your kids and their needs.
A strong marriage is built on communication, love, honor, respect, and loyalty. Be faithful and supportive to your hubby and remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder - so when he gets back you will appreciate him and love him even more.
2006-07-29 06:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, do you really love him. He's in Iraq now, fighting 4 our country, if the previous issue of him playin you has been resolved then leave the past in the past & love & support your husband. Yet, if you dont feel the love & support back from him, you have a decision 2 make. Happiness is the key, weigh the good & the bad, then choose.
2006-07-29 04:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Snoopy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did a tour in Korea ages ago and it didn't affect the marriage. If both people are committed and honest, a year separation is no threat.
Do you think he's playing around while there? Thing is, if you have no proof, you can't accuse him. What you can do is the "right thing." Then, even if he did play around, you can look in the mirror and say hey - I did right, I still have my dignity and self-respect and I lived up to my marriage commitment. If he didn't, then you're going to have to make some tough decisions.
2006-07-29 03:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blah blah blah... God God God... that's all I ever read on this stupid board.
You know what? The best thing you can do for your husband is to protest the war in Iraq. And vote Democrat. At least then you'll have a chance of helping elect a president who believes in DIPLOMACY instead of MIGHT MAKES RIGHT.
I was a soldier for four years, and I think what Bush is doing (risking our soldiers lives for a LIE) is beyond criminal, and if there were a Hell he'd have a special place reserved in it just for him.
2006-07-29 04:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by NickDanger_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes over there he is probably not doing anything wrong!
Honestly hes probably thinking about you 24/7 waiting until he gets to see you again and come home, the best thing you can do is support him give him nothing to worry about send him letters he will know how much you care and when he gets back you'll be fine!
Good luck and tell him thank you for defending our country!
2006-07-29 03:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by roonie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋