My father and I haven't been the closest. My parents divorced when I was 2, and saw him every weekend for about 10 years. Now, he's moved far out and I rarely see him because its such a long drive. He also has 3 more kids with my step mom, 5 children in total. Because I've done well in school my whole life, and it being my senior year this year, he decided to give me a car as a reward (an older one that they had finished paying off a few years ago). My family here (my mom, her boyfriend, and my older brother) need this car badly. My mom and her boyfriend both lost their licenses to DUIs, and we only have 1 car now because one has a club on the steering wheel. The car my dad is giving me had bad brakes, and since he's a mechanic, is supposed to be fixing them himself. I start band camp tomorrow and we all need a second car badly! My dad has been telling me for 2 weeks he will "get it done tonight" but still hasn't done anything with it! More coming..
2006-07-29 03:33:29 · 8 answers · asked by mcljuggalette108 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is it okay for me to call my dad and try to pressure him into working on it and getting it done? He works 6 days a week, and has 3 young kids to take care of. Is it okay for me to beg him to get it done for me when he gets nothing in return?
2006-07-29 03:34:52 · update #1
My brother and I do all the driving. My mom and her boyfriend don't drive anymore.
2006-07-29 03:46:18 · update #2
Also, the car will be for me to get to band camp and such things as my brother will have to drive them around while I'm there. My dad also has an account where he puts about a 100$ a month for my college. He used that to get the brake parts, and for my band. Money isn't a problem. It's getting him to get my car done. It's been 2 weeks, and I really need this car!
2006-07-29 03:48:59 · update #3
You indicated there is more coming, but its a nice story, sound to me there are other priorities than that cars. The expense of band camp could have paid for your brakes.
2006-07-29 03:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, congratulations on all the good school work.
I just bet you're a super achiever in just about everything you do.
I know that because you're a child living with alcoholics... and we tend to be very successful on the outside, but pretty wounded on the inside.
It's more than fine to call your dad and tell him about your time crunch. (for tomorrow, see if you can find a ride just in case.)
And, it's more than fine to keep this car for yourself. I know that sounds incredibly selfish, but it's not. While you've had to live with your mom's drinking, you're not responsible for her life.
Please, when you've had a chance to think about this, go online and find an Al-a-non meeting that you can go to. It's a group of people of all ages who get together and share their feelings and try to figure out how to get through problems just like the one you're having.
You're smart. You're loving. And you deserve it.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html
2006-07-29 10:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said he's going to do it he needs to do it. But you can't pressure him because your parents need it. It's not his responsibility to take care of your parents because they can't get their shiit straight. So, if he gives you the car, it's yours, but don't feel bad for your parents because they don't have one. Family can only do so much for you, you have to learn to take care of what you need done. I kinda went through the same thing except with my grandparents and my mom, and they don't get along at all. Just know that everything will work out right, and don't stress about your family. You're just a kid and you're not responsible for anyone but yourself.
2006-07-29 10:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kierstyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents do not need to be driving at all, they have dui's for sake. Try to stress the importance to your dad, that your brakes are getting worst and the longer you neglect to fix them, the more damage it will cause to the rotors. But please dont consider letting your parents drive, if the state took away their license; trust me it's a pretty darn good reason.
2006-07-29 10:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by They Love ME......... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will see it as pressure for sure, so maybe call him and tell him that you are available to help him in any way and that you will wait for his call so you can come over and help. And remember to also thank him for being a special dad to do this for you.
2006-07-29 10:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by kerryjonjon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to pressure him,just ask him.Make sure he knows why you need it.He may not want to give it to you DUI's thinking they will be driving it instead of you.You'll never know until you ask.
2006-07-29 10:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really pressure him. If I were your blood father and knew the stuff you told me, I would be suing for full custody ASAP.
2006-07-29 10:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him and ask him nicely to done your car, it is call unconditioned love. he is proud of you, as you done well in school and have not give him any problem, we are also proud of you.Girl go, girl, you are great.
2006-07-29 10:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by ubon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋