I think that my former boss likes me. I started in his department and moved on to better places so that I can pursue an opportunity to get to know him better. Is this a bad thing?
2006-07-29 03:27:33 · 15 answers · asked by Q-Tee 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
The general answer to this question will probably be a no followed by the explanation of: is not ethic, people will say you have material interests or you are after some career opportunities. I can even understand the policy when they do not agree with relations between co-workers ( lack of efficiency, risk of thefts etc etc)
BUT what happens when 2 people do get in love? And is not easy to just leave your job due to the fact that you are good.. and you do have a career there and you are not willing to start from the last position again?
No matter what rules of ethics will say, love is love, and love it is rational and irrational.
SO my answers is YES and NO... and this yes and no depends only on you.. if it is a sincere love than no its not a bad thing to love... if it is just a career move than the answer is... i don't know .. is it bad or not bad? who are we to judge?
Only you can tell us the answer. Is it good is it bad? How do you feel about it?
2006-07-29 03:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your company. Check your employee handbook for the fraternization policy. Some companies forbid dating anyone within the company while others limit anti-dating rules only to supervisor/subordinate relationships. My company has a rule against supervisor/subordinate, but there is a married couple in one dept where he's the manager and she's an employee. Kinda wierd.
But also, make sure that you ex boss is really interested. Maybe he's just flirting. Also think long and hard about it before doing it. It can be VERY uncomfortable having to work with a former boyfriend. Also some people might look down on you for doing it thinking you are trying to get ahead by sleeping with the boss even if he's not your boss.
2006-07-29 11:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say its a bad idea.
People you work with you shouldn't get involved with period.
You can do what you want.
But my advice is if it comes down to a situation where you two have to work together and he has to make choices you don't like. Then I hope your just understanding about his situation and don't hold it against him if he does something that in the interest of the business and not you.
Also, I had a friend who dated a coworker. The thing he never told my friend was that he was married. 4 months into the relationship she got pregnant and he wanted to break it off. She had to get an abortion and he's still happily married and I forgot, with two daughters already.
Good luck with that.
Cheers.
2006-07-29 10:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very very careful! It is not wrong, but be very very careful. I dated a person who worked for the same company. We both kept it very private. When we saw each other at work we didn't treat each other any differently then the other people around. Our relatioship was outside of work. Some folks never even knew we were dating. That was back in 2004. I am with a different company and we are still dating and now it is okay, but I would be very very careful. Caution strong on keeping personal life outside of work - even if involved with someone whom works for the same company. Work is work - private life stays private.
2006-07-29 10:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's Okay, Just know that you are NOT the only "special" girl he will work on. I'm sure he's gone through this with other co-workers. Some are smarter than others.
2006-07-29 10:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by nemraC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...before answering, I read all the answers and yes, they are really gave you good advise. One more thing...check out whether your boss is single or married........if married then skip the idea of pursuing him.........these fellows are more dangerous and opportunity seeker....especially with their co-worker.
2006-07-29 10:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by indraraj22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should check company policy, and how you work together, if it would effect the working environment. I curious because if you really thought that it wasn't issue and that you would be totally comfortable having the relationship would you be asking this question.
2006-07-29 10:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to check company guidelines, then if there is no policy against it then go for it.. But beware relationships like that usually have negative consequences if the relationship doesn't work out!!
2006-07-29 10:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea for a few reasons; if it fizzles, you will see him everyday, if the other employees catch wind of it they will think less of you and him and it may be against company policy.
2006-07-29 10:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date colleagues or neighbors, unless you want to move around all the time.
2006-07-29 10:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Chri R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋