Why do people marry and then end up cheating?

Answer 1

Because they get bored with their partner or they stop doing the little things that made them fall in love in the first place. Could also be they are not getting love and affection at home.

Answer 2

It's so easy for people to judge people who have cheated. These judging people will finally get married one day and end up putting questions out here on yahoo that I see all the time, "Help, I don't love my spouse any more...should I leave or stay for the kids' sake??". Karma, baby...Here are the top two (not all) reasons why people cheat;

1. Boredom. Work, come home, work some more, go to sleep, wake up, do it all over again. Sound exciting? Well, after many years of the same old routine, you tend to get a little bored with life in general, blaming your marriage because it's the most tangible thing to blame it on. This leaves people wide open for affairs because there's nothing exciting going on in their lives, which makes them feel unattractive, unappreciated, unhappy. Another person showing them attention makes a spark, then a flame, then an inferno that can devour everything if not extinguished.

2. Low self-esteem. There are people out there who seek reinforcement through other people, and sadly this leads to cheating. In my opinion, this is the more destructive of the two because it involves a deep-seeded behavioral problem, that has usually taken a lifetime to get to where it is. It's more difficult to change something that is an embedded part of their personality.

Answer 3

Marriage is a union of two people. With a commitment of certain vows. For some the love grows stronger and more unified during the course of a marriage. For some the vows are not respected. Communication is a huge part of marriage as it with any relationship. Why do people cheat during marriage? Well, people cheat whether they are in a marriage or not. It is difficult to commit to one person. In marriage you start of as honeymooners. Then perhaps as parents which tends to steer time away from each other. Then some wonder do I want to be with this person for the rest of my life. The fork in the road if you may. What is my spouse providing to whats out there? Some venture off, some communicate to try and re-kindle what once was there. Perhaps even make a plan to spend commited time as parents and some as a couple.

Answer 4

Some people don't understand the sanctity of marriage... and think it can be ended or if they don't feel loved the way they used to any more then it's "ok" for them to go elsewhere because their partner didn't satisfy them in all the ways that they wanted. I'm in the middle of a divorce because my husband thought this way. I would never consider going elsewhere... I also gave that blind trust that a marriage should have. He thinks I took him forgranted... I think I should have never had to worry about my marriage being the first thing to go when things get rough. Just remember... if they think it's ok to start a relationship with someone before the marriage is over... wheither it's a friendship that developes into more or they don't do anything physical until things are over.. that person still decided to go elsewhere with their energies... if they did it once.. they will do it again. They don't have the same kind of loyalty that is required out of a monogamas marriage

Answer 5

I read through some of these answers... and basically they all have the same answers... (excuses)

those who cheat are also liars, self centered, have low esteem, no morals much less scruples.

Why do they do it?
Because they find that they want to be the same person that they were in high school.
They get to live the experiences that they did not get to do when in high school... may sound dumb right now but look at the people you know who are cheating?
I have seen them and they act just like teenagers.
I think people who cheat have a mental problem-- its called: refusing to take responsibility.

Answer 6

There is the thousand dollar questions! Why? Most people that get married, I don't believe plan on cheating-at least I hope not-
I have a male friend that just can't seem to keep his pants zipped. He is on wife #4 and he is only 34. Sex to him is recreational. He loves woman and he loves sex. Doesn't help that he is a good looking man, and woman fall all over them either. He has no self-control. I think this marriage may work, because she doesn't run after him, she makes him chase her!
There is times when couples drift apart, and they are looking for acceptence. Sexual desires change, and God has a strange sense of humor-when a woman wants it all the time, her husband could care less.....when a man wants sex all the time-his wife doesn't want a thing to do this it....No one answer to you questions, but it is a very good question-and I look forward to reading everybodies remarks, maybe someone with more insight has the answer. Thanks for the interesting question...Yahoo shouldn't charge you points on this one! God bless us all..........

Answer 7

Probably lack of commitment. It has to do with our "immediate gratification" society we live in these days. Things are so cheap it is easier to throw away rather than fix (have you fixed a mirco-wave or just trashed it and bought another?). The same with marriage. People get married in a fever (lust) and when the relationship gets old and not as much fun as it was when they were dating they think that the marriage is bad. But it isn't ...... it's just a different thing. Then you replace the lust with the love that happens. Unfortunately most people don't wait for that to happen.
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Good luck

Answer 8

Because they think there is something better out there then what they have at home and they are not willing to work at their relationship. Thing is when you are cheating with someone their is no commitment. You can come and go, you aren't accountable to the person you are cheating with. And the person that is cheating with the married person seems to think that once s/he leave them for me we will live happily ever after. News Flash: It doesn't work like that because if they cheat with you they will cheat on you.

Answer 9

Because there is something wrong in the relationship in the first place. That is mainly the reason that people cheat, as I have come find out from both sides of the coin. If there is something wrong in the relationship, that should be addressed. Going out and cheating only makes things worse for all people involved.

Answer 10

SexeyMom it is hard to say. I have been happily married for 15 years and have never even kissed another woman...well except one of my wife's friends (wife was right there too). I thought about it once but in the end, I knew it was wrong and didn't act on it. We were having difficulties at the time and I was lonely, so I was weak. However, I didn't do it and I know I could have. so why does one cheat, I think it is because they just aren't strong enough...maybe because of relationship issues??? Why do you ask?

Answer 11

not all married people cheat, some people are just cheaters wether they are married or not, I look at like this, if someone cheats on you once, they will do it again, so if you are in a relationship and they cheat on you before you are married, don't marry that person.Nowadays, women are neck and neck in the cheating game with men, and when I jumped in the dating game after years of marriage, most of the men that I met said that it was their wives that cheated and ended the marriage.