having sex with my girlfriend and my wife is it o k
2006-07-29 02:31:56 · 36 answers · asked by josiah amoah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You asked this question,that itself implies something in you says"you are doing wrong".
Don't expect the answers given here to coax or comfort your paining and guilty conscience.
What you are doing is definitely wrong and needs to be stopped with immediate effect.I know my words might sound to be asking for something theoretical or "ideal"....but,to help you ease out i have one suggestion,just try to put yourself in your wife's place and her in your,and think .
You definitely will know the answer once you imagine changing place with your wife.
2006-07-29 02:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by opinion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not sure of ur ethnic and cultural back round. Here in the USA we don't condone having sexual relationships outside of the marriage. There are persons who do carry out what is known as extra marital affairs...adultery however, the spouse who is being cheated on may in fact file for and be awarded a divorce as well as, in some states alimony or spousal support. Which could be very costly to you.
Lets not forget about...AIDS and other STDs, it's not just your life but your wife's, girlfriends', girlfriend's other man's life etc. Oh, and god forbid any unexpected pregnancies that could happen. This behavior is devastating to all persons involved, children included.
So to answer you question....No, it's not OK....never. If you marriage is bad or in trouble, re focus on the marriage and put the energy that u were using from ur affair back into ur marriage and you will see a change. If you don't wanna do that...get a divorce at least.
PS. Don't be surprised if the truth doesn't come out on it's own...it usually does. You could end up with no wife and no girlfriend.
2006-07-29 02:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by reighngstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question you should ask yourself is why are you cheating on your wife? Many people get hurt when others break trust. If there is nothing left of your marriage then consider ending the relationship; however if the affair is simply because it makes you feel "alive" and "needed" then I would wonder if there are communication problems at home. Women are really not that stupid when it comes to affairs, most women are aware when one is happening. I think that the only person you are truly hurting here is yourself. If you are indeed in a bad marriage, get out. It's better to be truthful to your wife then lie and possibly end up with consequences that all three parties can not deal with.
2006-07-29 02:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lady J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted to act like a single guy going from one woman to another, then you should've never gotten married. Does she deserve what you are doing to her? Does your girlfriend know you are married? Both women ought to get smart and DUMP YOUR BUTT! Cheating on your wife isn't right. Also, your girlfriend deserves to have someone who can give her his whole heart. She is stupid to be with you if she knows you are married! Has your wife cheated on you? Get a life man!
2006-07-29 02:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the one you married. Cheating should not be an option in a marriage.Remember your vows. Put the shoe on the other foot. How would you feel if she did it to you. It is not moncho to cheat. It is wrong. If your not happy in your marriage then you should talk to your wife about it, before you do something stupid.
2006-07-29 02:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by momof4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not good and you know better that though. Why you are asking this question if it is good?
I think some how you have been demoralized. Try to find the reason and work hard to solve that. Live a slow life; try to help distress people, environment and nature. May Allah bless you.
2006-07-29 02:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Zia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you a Mormon. Otherwise, get a grip on yourself. How would you feel if your wife was wandering?
Your vows mean something, don't they? If not, have the decency to let your wife in on your problem and cut her free.
2006-07-29 02:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by sammbertt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u silly n evil,cheating is the most evil thing men do for women n vice versa,if ur wife says it's ok,watch out ,she may not luv u anymore cuz she's not jealous or she's had a plan to discover this thing
2006-07-29 02:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by New mem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello??!!What planet are you from?Think of it this way.Would you want your wife sleeping with another man???Step up and love your wife like you did when you first married,otherwise dont humiliate her just tell her its over,I hope you make the right choice.BE GOOD TO YOUR WIFE!!!!!!Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-29 02:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you even asking that? you know it's not a good idea. and, you also know what most of the answers are going to be from everyone. why are you wanting to hurt your wife like that?
remember, what goes around comes around....good rule to live by!!!
2006-07-29 02:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by Praise the Lord 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋