I guess you would say I cheated since I am legally married but I was not with my husband when I got pregnate by another man. My husband has had a vectomy so no chance of blaming him and I would not anyway. I am hurting everyone I know If I have the baby but it might be my last chance and yes God did know that I had sin when I conceived the child but we are all brought into this world by sin. I just want some sane answers because I am in an insane state of mind and I know I am not thinking right. I just need help of any kind good advice or bad, just someone to talk to.
2006-07-29 02:30:11 · 11 answers · asked by insane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My boyfriend is muslim and says that I am killing him if I have the baby because it is forbidden in Islam. I told him I would give the baby up for adoption and not let anyone know that it was his and he was saying why would I let you and the baby go to another person if you deliver, he is my blood. All of this is confusing to me, I just want the baby but I don"t think God wants me to have it. Could this just be a test and punishment from God.
2006-07-29 15:38:24 · update #1
How wonderful, you are going to have a baby! Some one that will love you no matter the mistakes that you make. Some one that will give you happiness like no other, some one that at times will stress you, but most of all LOVE you. I too got pregnant, I wasn't married I was just dating and my boyfriend left me, oh how it hurt me so.....I would pray "please let him come back to me. I would cry and cry , but you know what he never came back......and that is because although I thought I knew what was best I didn't have a clue, but GOD knew.(ten yrs later) I am now
happily married with two wonderful children and do you know what that loser that I thought that I loved so, is just that A LOSER.If your boyfriend and husband doesn't want to be with you that is just fine. It can be tough but it is so wonderful too. You can make it with this little one by your self and you can be so proud of your self for doing so. You should pray now that GOD "take the wheel" foresay, you have made a mistake in which you have learned your lesson and from this mistake someone wonderful will come from it. Now give it to GOD and let him drive for a while ( your life that is) let the Lord take care of you and your baby the way that you need to be taken care of. Sometimes we think that we know what is best, but GOD knows what is best for us.
2006-07-29 02:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I am not in a position to judge you, and since am seeking God's grace, the only advice I can give you is to first pray and ask the Lord to forgive you, and secondly, If you want your marriage to work, then you need to sit down and have a very deep heart to heart with your husband. Ask him to forgive you and if he does, and is willing to accept this child as a part of you, then maybe he will be able to raise him/her/them (if its twins or more) as his own.
Then you must decide and come to an agreement of visitation of the biological father. If on the other hand, you and your husband do not reconcile, and even if you and your boyfriend do not stay together, know that Jesus loves you, and that the life that is growing inside of you is a gift from him despite the circumstances surrounding it's conception, God has a plan for it. Be strong, if you need to talk further, you can e-mail me.
2006-07-29 13:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by ladysea8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know that right now a lot of people are probably wispering about you. Who cares! Let them. In time, this will all fizzle out. Everything does. Obviously you had some marriage problems from the start since you had an affair. You probably don't want to be with your husband anymore anyhow? Okay so now is your chance. Get yourself together before the baby gets here and take care of yourself. I promise, it will get better one day.
2006-07-29 11:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by itgurl79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not call this cheating, since you are separated. There are much worse things you can do in life than this. Don't be so hard on yourself. Think about what it is you want in life right now. Does the boyfriend know you are pregnant? Is this somebody you want to stay with? Decide what it is you really want right now and then work from there. Good luck to you, whatever you choose.
2006-07-29 14:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by cryptoscripto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me. My situation was even more complicated (and we used protection; my cycle was off, and the protection failed), but you DIDN'T cheat. You're not legally married anymore; you have been emancipated from it via the legal separation. A divorce is just the final decree (all of our details are done; we just have to file that one piece of paper). It's a very personal thing. Maybe you should email me, because I'm open on here, but that issue is a little too sensitive to broadcast. appleseed46@shaw.ca .
2006-07-29 09:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax.. the best advice is that nothing is going to change in the next 5 minutes... and tomorrow will come. Everything will work out, you will not be able to make everyone happy... that is a promise, but you will need to focus on you... your baby and other children. You will need to determine the responsible action without... and I mean totally without being selfish. Best wishes!
2006-07-29 09:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, and foremost, do not beat yourself up over this. I know you're hurting, but you made an error in judgment. It's not the end of the world. We all have made some bad decisions, but you just take the hand you're dealt, and continue to move forward. Brighter days are coming!
2006-07-29 09:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything happends for a reason and its obvious this baby was meant to come into your life who cares if its a sin people sin every hour of the day i wouldnt even worry about it! whats your bf think? you should start picking out some cute baby names! Congratulations!
2006-07-29 09:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"God did know you were sinning when you conceived" but it isn't HIS fault. If God were responsible, you would be pregnate because the vasectomy was botched. Tell your husband the truth. If he forgives-no worries. If he doesn't- I hope your new bf wants children, but I'm thinking y'all didn't discuss that before having unprotected sex.
2006-07-29 09:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always have the choice in life, and you choosed that one. Do not cry over the spilled milk. Do what you think is best for your life right now. It is your choice to choose your own destiny, your choice. You have to be brave, because life is full of surprises, strugles and fun and happiness. Good luck on your choice.
2006-07-29 10:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋