i love my best friend(@ california) of 4 years .my parents are devorced but they are united for decitions.they live in two different countries. my father in duabi(U.A.E) my mother in california.they dont agree on me getting maried right now and especially with who i want.i know i want this guy but if i shoos him my family will not support me at all.i know for a fact that my father will never speak to me.same goes for my mother she tells me if you marry him you will break my heart. i'm stuck. i dont know what to do? also i have one year of university left to get my degree.i have currently moved to dubai with my dad but i know if i tell him i want to move back to marry him it will be a desaster. he says stay in duabi to help him with his business. where should i study my last year? should i get married?when?
2006-07-29 02:16:34 · 11 answers · asked by experiance 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Finish your degree and then choose. You are young and have time to work out whether its right. Your partner will understand that you need to concentrate on the degree first.
2006-07-29 02:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by welsh_witch_sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love will wait. Finish your degree. You'll never get that opportunity back. Marrying at 23 isn't much different than marrying at 22. If your guy isn't willing to wait a year then I would seriously question his love.
In terms of when that time comes, I don't know your value system but the christian value system poses a precarious balancing act. On the one side you are to honour your parents, on the other side, when getting married, you are to forsake all others for each other. Sometimes that includes your family. If your faith allows it, you must seek God's answer. If this guy is the ONE, then you must trust that God will take care of your family and how they feel.
but don't forget.....finish the school before anything.
2006-07-29 03:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by jp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things change, and your family so controlling you what you need to do and who you should be married.
If you love your best friend for four years and really in love so much and trust, caring, givers, passions, commucate, stuff like that and you know in your hearts that you feel true love like SoulMate???
I don't see what wrong to married a man you love the most. Looked at me I called my mother and told my family that I am going to get married and Know that she the only person I truly wanted to get married. My mom and sister others said no not good idea. I got stuck, thinking very hard, so I made the decides that I want to marry and we got married court house and then we have small wedding but didn't invited my family to my wedding. just all people from work. It was the best thing I ever made the decided ever. and Guess what I never talk to my family for 9 years becasue soon in oct 2006 we will be married 9 years. and we have 2 small children. My wife is my best friend and everything to me.
I think you have to decided that what you truly want. If you not want to marry that guy. you will be carrying that guility for the rest of your life. like you see movies, Follow you heart and now talk to your best friend and figure out right now to where will be living and where you and him find better job. plan this asap after you get your degree and tell your father that I am sorry I am doing what best for me. I do love you very much dad, I can't marry someone that you want me to who I don't love. and when you get to califorina you and he already made plans ever since. If your mom see you tell her I am so sorry I want to feel Love with someone who I really care and he does too. I can't love someone who I don't love. Breaking your heart I am sorry.
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I hope this helps. You have to make it happen, if you don't you will feel bad wishing everday I should be with him, not listen to my family. Looked at me I did it and Oh well, my life who I want to spend my life with and my family will not live that long to be with me. I rather to be with someone. smiling.
2006-07-29 02:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point we all have to grow up, separate from our parents, and stop letting them run our lives. As a parent, it's my DUTY to help my children in that process.
No one can tell you what you MUST do (well, maybe in Dubai they can.....). You have to decide whether you want to remain a little girl for your entire life or you want to be an adult.
I had to make a similar decision, and I chose love. I knew my parents would understand someday... My mother was great, but it took my father over 15 years - but now we have a relationship again. I've never regretted my decision, but it was MY decision.
Now you have to make yours.
2006-07-29 02:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really finish school and then decide maybe your mom and dad see something you do not right now ya know blinded by love. For some reason parents seem to have like a intuition about things so just take your time.Good luck to ya.
2006-07-29 02:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only answer anyone can give is what is in your heart. can you see your life with him take you whare you want to go. i married at a young age and now i am regreting it. but i am not saying you will lead whare to i am in life. which is devorce pending and a 1 year old son. yo hunny you have to make up your own mind. only you have to live with your regrets. it is your karma
2006-07-29 02:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by wild_wolf_tank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... well why dont youe mama and dad like this guy is he and *** to you there and reason why. if the guy is good to you then marry him but if he and slacker that you have to sport then leave him be. but if u love him and hes good to and he has and good job and works and can help u start an happy life together why not. my mom hated my hubby but she got over it. ween we had my lil girl she was so happy to have such and pretty grandchild she didnt care anymore.. i would finsh collage before i got married though that way u can get and good job.
GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES!
2006-07-29 02:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
finish ur degeree 1st be 4 thinkin of marriage by den u mite even find a beta person to love u. and try speakin with ur parents.
2006-07-29 02:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by funmzire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study and finished your last year. That way you'll be able to support yourself. There's plenty of time to marry.
2006-07-29 02:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, definitely. get married now
2006-07-29 02:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋