There's a small group of us & we all agree that the actions of this one friend's daily life are childish. But we don't want to end the friendship. I ended up agreeing with someone that she is childish and she heard about it & is now upset. I realize that I don't care if she's upset because I'm always disagreeing with her decision's ( in my head, not to her) anyway. My problem is, I don't want all my other friends to be caught in the middle & all our husbands are good friends also, so I don't want this to damage their friendships. Ironically, my husband and one other close friend's husband can't stand this woman. So how would you go about handling the situation? Would you just say screw it & walk away? Would you ignore it? I've already told her that I said those things, I didn't lie about it. Basically, how do I preserve the other friendships?
2006-07-29 02:15:16 · 6 answers · asked by pritigrl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stand up and be the true friend that you are.Your suppose to be able to tell your friends what you think about there behavior if what there doing is upsetting you.The rest of your circle will respect the fact and will soon rally to back you up(if their real friends)Stand your ground.
2006-07-29 02:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, one thing you can do is take an unofficial meeting of all your friends, (do not name it as meeting, say its a get-together) then
start casually with your other discussions, like about life, etc, then slowly turn the topic towards this friend in a very natural way. Then in a humourous way focus on a particular incidence concerning this friend of yours, and also involve everyone in this new topic, and without hurting this friend, point on her shortcomings or the wrong way she behaved etc. Since everyone will be involved your friendship wont be affected adversely , as everyone will talk about her shortcoming, in a humourus way, this friend wont get hurt, at the same time she will understand that she was wrong somewhere. This will also help in changing her behaviour, another option is everyone else can act like her, i.e. in a childish way, this will make her realise that how childish she is, and what kind of impression it makes on the person at the other end,. this will make her change her behaviour, without affecting friendship.
2006-07-29 02:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by CRAZYFAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soar with Eagles.
If someone is putting a damper on the rest of the group...cut em off. Just stop inviting them to outings. If everyone has a problem with her then she needs to take a look deep within and work those issues out. If you value her friendship just call her from time to time to see how she is doing and don't let on about what you've guys being doing as a group w/o her. She will get the picture.
2006-07-29 02:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already said you don't want to end the friendship, so I guess you need to accept her for what she is. There are a lot of people like she is, sometimes you just have to put up with it, for the good of everything else.
2006-07-29 02:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being childish is part of her personality, you can either except her as she is or give her up as a friend. Since it is a group of you, I would probably have to accept her silly decisions and let her live with them.
2006-07-29 02:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every group of friends always has that one that kind of ruins things. Not too much you can do about. Try to ignore it. If you let her bug you, then she has control over you. Don't give her that power.
2006-07-29 02:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋