My husband and I fight alot when I am stresssed. He tells me to fix it. I don't know how. I used to go horseback riding to deal with it, but now I don't have a horse at all. I dont want to get divorced but I just don't know what to do no more.
2006-07-29 02:05:35 · 16 answers · asked by Jennifer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do very stong physical exercise like kickboxing, or dancing. Know what your stress factors are and try to reduce them. deep breaths and count to 10. Therapy might help too. Good Luck
2006-07-29 02:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray about your stress and pray for your marriage. I deal with stress all the time too, so I can relate to you. Try to think about other people: like people that don't have a home, people that don't have food to eat, people that can't walk, Children that can't see or hear or talk. Think about these people. Let me tell you why. You have reasons to be stressed right...You have a job that stressed you...people that can't see wouldn't be able to hold down a job. You have bills to pay every month right.....Homeless people wish they had bills that means they have a home... Your married right....their are people that die before they even got their first kiss....You use to ride horses right.... there are people that haven't ever experienced the freedom and the pleasure of riding a horse and you have done it many times. Thinking about some of these things will make your stress seem so minimal. When your husband and you fight, think of the good things in him and the things that you couldn't live with out if he wasn't in your life anymore. I know sometimes men can make us women so mad we can't see any good in them, but there is good in your man or you wouldn't be married to him.
To help with your stress you can also try lighting the bathroom with only candles, lock the door and relax in a nice bubble bath. OR call a girlfriend and let it all out.
2006-07-29 02:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what causes the stress. If horseback riding helped, try taking a long walk somewhere quiet. I used to take a book with me into the timber, find a log, and watch the wildlife when I wasn't reading. It is amazing how calming it can be to watch for deer, squirrel, etc.
If that is not viable, find a lake or pond, and sit by the water. Very soothing and restoring.
2006-07-29 02:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by aubsgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! your husband told to fix it??? if you fight first then yeah but if he started to you then he need to fix it and if both same time both need to help work it out.
I never ever tell my wife you fix it! whoa. We we yelling and stuff knowing that it will not solve the plm. So we learn to sit down and talk about it and listen to each other. It helps both of us. and we been married for 9 years and it been great.
You and your husband really need to learn to sit down and talk about it without getting pissed off or I don't to hear it. But it only way to deal with stress. I don't what to tell you you might want to calm yourself down before you drive and then go where they have horseback riding, should have in yellow phone book. can't find it then look in internet. hope this help you smiling. I am so sorry what you been going though.
2006-07-29 03:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant advise you because i have same problem but not with my husband because i am still single but i am alwyes fighting and understand people in wrong way i have some ideas i hope to work with you because it sometimes works with me
1- from time to time or daily read or listen to your holy book , for me i listen and read Quraan and i get relaxed and better .
2- listen to slow music and breath slowly when you are alone and dont think about any thing bad just remember the happy and best moments in your life .
3- read books which talking about stress and how to be relax .
4- take a warm shower and put your best oil and bath foam and stay in for 20 minutes .
5- talk with your husband frankly and dont keep any thing hidden and try to go out for romantic dinner .
try it and u will see the changes
lola
2006-07-29 02:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by lola25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just need to stop fighting. Have a think about whats causding the arguments. Make a list. Have you talked it through with your husband? Maybe yoga would help?
2006-07-29 02:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 05:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by morabito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some stress vitamins. Exercise is a good tension release. You can also take a long quiet walk that helps
2006-07-29 02:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by krayzeman32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes pray for sure, and it sounds to me that he is not dealing with but putting the burden on you to do it all. He needs to sit down with you and talk it out, why is it happening and what is causeing it and how to cure it. We are each like plants, we need love (light) attention (water), fertilizer (intimate times) and communication.
you both need to be willing to sit and COMMUNICATE !!!!!!
I know easier said then done but try. I will pray for you both.
2006-07-29 02:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by kerryjonjon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband isn't helping, that's for sure. Try marriage counseling. And while you're setting that up, get a super hot personal trainer (I am not suggesting an affair, btw) and get super hot yourself. That'll help.
2006-07-29 02:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by lindakb24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋