i need help to talk to a person who is mature ...!!!!
2006-07-29 01:36:31 · 4 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need professional help. It's not easy to sort it out all by yourself. Cut the strings. Being married should be liberating, not keeping you hostage. I am not saying you should cheat on your spouse, I am saying being married shouldn't deny your personality, you shouldn't have to have strings attached.... to keep you there. It should be volitional and pleasurable. You need to work out your issues. And be free to love your spouse as God intended. I am not sure what are you referring to but it's not easy being in a relationship where you have to present yourself in a certain way. There are marriage counseling agencies everywhere, you need to contact them, and either make it work, or get out!
2006-07-29 01:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not likely to solve your problem, but it may help you to put things into perspective so that you can solve this issue yourself. There aren't a lot of details present in your opening statement, but if I'm understanding you correctly, you're saying that you're married, but have some unresolved feeings for someone else ( an ex, perhaps)? I'm curious: are there any children involved in this scenario ( either your husband's or the ex's)? That question was necessary because you can't very well be completely free of an ex when you have a child with them. Beyond an issue of children however, you've made a binding commitment with your husband ( you actually married him), and unless you're being mentally or physically mistreated, that relationship has to take priority over all other considerations if it's your intention to be fair about things. I remember being newly married and occasionally wondering if I had done the right thing or married the right person when there were all these other ladies who laughed at my jokes, or made better dinners, or did this or did that...maybe I would've been more suitable for them or they for me. ( I was stunned to discover that on occasion, my wife was having similar thoughts!) It's true, the grass always looks greener in another pasture, but upon closer inspection, it's all the same thing. And if I pay attention to my lawn and give it the consideration it's due, it will blossom and thrive the way I wanted it to from the beginning...but it's not an overnight process. Now, here's the rest of the story: We did well, but not well enough...we divorced after 12 years, but as I write this, I'm sitting in her living room talking to our 20 year old daughter, and realizing after all these years she's still one of my best friends. You're at a different fork in the road. What is it you want to do with this journey? No matter what you do, decide early on what's important, and what's not. Most of the time, it's best to honor your commitment to the one you're committed to. Good luck to you, and God bless.
2006-07-29 09:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess I am **** outta luck.. If your married then you shouldnt be having any probs exept either her sex drive is gettin shitty or you knocked her up.
2006-07-29 08:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact me.
2006-07-29 08:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Milkman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋