How do you break it to a family member that you think THEY are gay?

Answer 1

Find the best looking gay man/woman you can find and throw them in a room and see what happens. Let chaos ran supreme. BWHAHAHAHA!

Answer 2

You don't. Coming out, especially to a family member, is something that has to be done on one's own time. Trying to push the issue really won't get you anywhere; if they're not ready, they'll lie. The best you can do is take opportunities to demonstrate that you'd be receptive to the news (communicate any positive views you have on gay issues when they come up). DONT constantly ask about a girlfriend (for a guy) or boyfriend (for a female); if you wanna go one better, ask about a "partner", or "are you seeing anyone" or something else that's gender neutral. It does get annoying when people constantly assume you're straight. That having been said, the other reason to not say anything is that I'm sure it's equally annoying to have someone falsely assume you're gay.

Answer 3

How should I approach (and support) a youth who I think may be gay? (from PFLAG)
The perception by a third party of someone else’s sexual orientation or gender identity is not always what it appears to be and to offer support for being “gay” to someone who is not gay or who is still trying to work out whether or not they are gay could be counter-productive. Unless the person has actually declared that they are “gay” we cannot know whether they are or not. I always recommend that people let it be known through their stance and aspect “that being gay is OK”. This can be achieved by a willingness to talk about topics such as gay marriage, gay rights, and a general sense of acceptance of things “gay”. This conveys the message to the person being perceived as gay that if they are gay it would be safe to let it be known without having to fear for the consequences. Obviously this is not an easy task and needs to be done with tact and diplomacy. It is seldom appropriate to ask the person, "Are you gay?", as they may well be frightened by the question. If you follow the tips above, and if the person feels secure and wants you to know, they will tell you in their own good time

Answer 4

Why would you need to do this?
Coming out is a very personal thing. If and when your family member is ready to come out, he or she will. What need is there for you to attempt to "out" somebody in your family?
Do you have a burning desire to prove that you were the first to know? Why is this a problem for you?

Thank of the problems you may be causing for this family member, to say nothing of emotional trauma. Just mind your own business, please.

Answer 5

I'm concerened about the word "break" here. if you love someone and they are close, i would say there is no breaking anything, just conversation, If you are uncomfortable with homosexuality don't even go there, if you allow the people in your life their own happiness,then just know it and go foward....I can't imagine asking any family member the details of their sexual pleasure...gay or not

lindaz

Answer 6

I don't think you are in a position to make that assessment...unless you have caught them in the act. All sorts of people act in all sorts of ways, often having nothing to do with sexuality. IF they "Act Gay" in your opinion, then perhaps you might say that in a private conversation. On the other hand, what is "Act Gay" mean? We have a very strange concept of how men and women are supposed to act here in the States. That many don't fit the mold is just natural. In Europe, people have freedom to act in many different ways and not be assumed to be Gay. The US stills suffers from the "John Wayne Syndrome." I suppose it is left over from our frontier days. Who knows. ???

Answer 7

Let this person tell you when and if they are ready.

You can drop hints that you like gays. Maybe when you are around them you can tell a story about how you think it is normal or how you have gay friends or something like that. But let them tell you.

Answer 8

You don't. it is their business and when they are ready to share it they will. the only thing you could do is find some way to let them know that you accept anything they choose to do with their lives. if that is how you feel about it. but if you want to come out and tell/ask, leave it. what if you are wrong. or what if they arent ready to deal with it?

Answer 9

Ask them, but before you do have a clear explanation of why you think this so when they ask you why you could tell them. It wouldn't be fair to place those accusations without solid evidence, some people could be confused by your intention easily.

Answer 10

My parents went through my stuff in my computer and found a picture of my boyfriend and me, and they were the ones who confronted me..so i really cant say, but just be honest and just know that what your saying is something your proud about.