Some people learn from their mistakes & some people never do, different partners bring different problems & conflicts to any marriage.
Serial lovers never learn from their mistakes & never give up on idealising their current relationship which naturally fails to reach those standards so rather than accepting that person having faults they move on to the next potental "perfect" partner
2006-07-29 00:49:50
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answered by madamspud169 5
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I think you can learn a lot from a second chance. I sure did. If I hadn't of married Ray the second time, I would have always wondered if there was a chance we could have made it work. We divorced after the second marriage also. But now we are good friends, and we know that we are definitely not meant to be married or lovers. Now it is never an issue. I learned a lot of about communication and about what I am really looking for in a mate, and also about things that I need to work on if I ever decide to get married again. Our son who is 14 has even said that he was glad we tried again, but that we sure fight a lot less now that we're not living in the same house. :) And he is right. His father is very much in his life, but my son is not forced to suffer through our doomed relationship.
2006-07-29 01:35:08
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answered by kikisdragon 3
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No you should not be looking at your mistakes going into the second marriage. Your second wife will have no clue. Your first marriage is over you are starting anew. Don't dwell on the past.
I am on my second marriage and let me tell you there is nothing my first one gave me that helped on the second one. I was lucky I found my sole mate and hope to live forever together. 22 years, 3 children so far and we still feel like two love birds.
2006-07-29 02:10:39
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answered by Mit 4
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2016-02-12 07:48:06
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answered by ? 3
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Both. I would recommend going to a counselor for a few sessions to make sure you are both on the same page and get advise on how to deal with future conflicts. Some people don't learn from their past mistakes......every couple can learn new communication techniques.
2006-07-29 00:46:00
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answered by Anonymous
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Therefore, hold on the marriage until you both know how to do these. Both read these books together
Read "He", "She" and "We", three very short books by Robert Johnson. These are short and the definitive psych of men, women and relationships. No other books will be necessary ever.
This is despite the onslaught of books around.
Read "How to be Your Own best Friend". One cannot be the other's friend until we learn how to be our own.
Both do The Landmark Education "Forum", and three day one evening experince into the nature of being a human being.
Your marriage will work after these.
2006-07-29 00:48:18
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answered by Legandivori 7
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People will do one of 2 things. They'll either learn from their mistakes or they won't. Watch the ones that don't, they keep walking right back into the same **** and get themselves in the same type of trouble as before. They just never learn.
2006-07-29 00:54:58
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answered by Anonymous
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I think people always learn from their experiences, and mistakes. Although love makes people stupid, and sometimes if it doesnt work for a reason - maybe it was a good reason. If you are happy with that person than I wish you all the best.
2006-07-29 00:45:23
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answered by VL 4
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I like to think we do. I learned alot from my soon to be ex-husband. I know how to treat a man better then I did and I know what I want and what I will not put up with. He cheated alot and I forgave. No more
2006-07-29 00:46:05
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answered by Unique Poet 2
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Well, your "life partner" obviously wasn't your life partner the first time round so no, some of us never learn from our mistakes.
2006-07-29 00:44:42
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answered by lunarsky 3
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