My fiance and I are planning to get married this year. Eversince I know that he is inclined to dom/sub relationship and he already told me that we will be doing that. I dont say that I dont like it....I like to please my future husband...I love him so much. What sometimes worries me is that....can I stand on it since it is not the kind of relationship I was brought up?.....
2006-07-29 00:09:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Exactly what kind of dominate submissive relationship are you talking about? Is he planning on determining your EVERY move and monitoring every dollar you spend and every phone call you make? If THIS is what he is talking about you better tell him to "take a hike" before you sign on the dotted line.
However, if he means the BIBLICAL definition of "dom/sub" which is:
Ephes. 5:21-24
And further, you will submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. [22] You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord. [23] For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior. [24] As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything.
Be sure you re-read verse 21 where it says to submit to "one another". Also:
1 Peter 3:7
In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life. If you don't treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard.
Your future hubby may need to be reminded of other scriptures that explain in more detail than just the "wives be submissive" part.
I feel lead to also say this......if your fiance is wanting you to go by rules. Make sure he is not just going by the rules HE chooses. For example....are the two of you sexually active? The Bible strictly forbids sex out of marriage. If your fiance is wanting you to be biblically submissive BUT he is willing to go against God's rule regarding fornication.....well....I think you may want to RETHINK your choice in a husband. He doesn't sound like a very trustworthy, reliable kind of man to me. He can't pick and choose which rules he wants you to live by....that's not HIS decision! Just my opinion.
2006-07-29 08:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by guatemama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's tough. My marriage didn't work out. I've been with the same lovely lady for a little over 5 years now and I am still happy. I would say my biggest hurdle is my independence. I can cook, clean, do laundry, iron, as well as pay my own bills so I'm not dependent upon a significant other to fulfill those needs. I think it actually helps a relationship when there is some dependency upon someone else and I just don't have that.
2016-03-27 05:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after a while it will probably wear on you and you wont be able to handle it unless you are TRULY sub. it will probably wreak havoc with your self esteem. you better be absolutely sure this is what you want for the rest of your life before you commit, otherwise you will be just another statistic. Love does NOT conquer all.
2006-07-29 01:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by debrieanna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no it woll not work if both parties are not willing
2006-07-29 00:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋