whats my problem????

Question

i always think dat everybody hate me.... i always stress myself out......and i always start to get paranoid over just a small things.... im trying hard to please paople but it seems dat its nt working.... what should i do and why?????

Answer 1

Hey, listen to me... You need to love yourself in the first place... And when you start doing that people will start loving you for what you are... Got that...

Answer 2

I have to ask you: How many times have you thought people weren't happy with you? Then How often was it true? How often has someone hated you? How many times when someone gave you a look, did it mean anything? So take everything down a notch. I think if you look at your statements, (and we all feel them from one degree to another) how often has it actually happened in thepast? So I'm guessing not a lot, maybe never. So why do you think it will start happening now? I'm not being harsh but this was kind of the best advice I ever received. I was stricken with the Disease to Please and nothing I ever did was good enough, I always felt I was about to get kicked out of a club I shouldn't belong to! I felt every small slight was a conspiracy to make me miserable. Get over your big bad self! Because the reality is other people don't have filters on their actions. So they do or say things that feel like they pertain to you. And they don't. I'm not saying you're insignificant, I'm saying that you are looking at everything as it relates to you and step back, because nobody else is thinking that way. So be your wonderful self don't try to kill yourself to make others happy, recognize people don't think about you nearly as much as you think they think about you. AND Smile!

Answer 3

You are probably shy to start with. You feel that people are judging you, and you don't like that. You want to be included, but your shyness is keeping you from taking the plunge into the crowd. It can be a very scarey situation for those of us who are on the quiet side. We need to learn { and you will if you try] how to fit in with other people and hold a conversation. There are many books written on the subject. You can get over your feelings, by assuring yourself daily that you are a worthy person and can get over being shy.
You may be coming off to others as being stuck up and snobby. This is why they seem to hate you. Stop being afraid to include yourself in this life. You will be missing out on alot of good times. You can overcome this, I DID!
Educate yourself, and stop using words like 'DAT'. It makes you sound dumb, and you are not!

Answer 4

First you have to relax and stop pleasing other people. Be yourself. Why are you stress out? If you hate yourself then other people will not like you either. You have to look at the brighter side. every morning when you wake up, tell yourself that you are beautiful and it is a beautiful day. always think positive and don't let small things put you down. Try doing a hobby or do things that you love doing so whenever you are depress you can turn to it. Smile.

Answer 5

First ask yourself why u think ppl hate you. There must be a reason behind it. You must look to the brighter side of your life. You dun need to things just to make other ppl happy coz you can't make everybody happy overnight. There are ppl dun may not like things U do but dun let it affect U. U must always tell yourself dun panic over small things as it create more stress for U. Learn to relax yourself. Sometimes it is good to confide your problems to your friends or family members. Hope you can be a happier person.

Answer 6

The first thing you need to do is stop trying to please the others! You are the most important and you need to do things that will make you happy. You need to set your priorities straight and if you really want to please someone you have to make sure that that person is worth it and that he/she would do the same thing for you (your parents for example).
You need to do things that will build up your self-esteem because only the people who are happy with who they are and what they do in life can easily get over small things that can be stressful. At the same time, people who are satisfied are much more attractive to others (friends and opposite sex) because they know how to feel good in their own skin and can make others feel that way too.

I know it seem easy to say and hard to do, but all you need in fact is to get started with your priorities and everything else comes naturally. Good luck!

Answer 7

Most can sniff out a people pleaser a mile away. Some will take advantage for others it's probably annoying. All you can do is be YOU. As long as you live you will have those who don't like you for one reason or another. But are those who don't even worth the sweat on your forehead? Lighten up, be yourself, stop trying to please everyone and don't worry about what other people think and i bet others attitude towards you will change.

Answer 8

U may suffer from low self esteem. U cant make others like u. So loosen up a little. It's not all that important for people to like u. However just be yourself and if the ones around you, if there friends. Will like you anyways.

Answer 9

I think you need to stop trying to please everyone! if people cant except you 4 who you are than there not worth knowing in the first place!!! you are obviously insecure id suggest maybe seeing a councillor or even talking to a close friend or family member about your problems ad don't be surprised if they can actually help you with your issues! Look my best answer is be yourself stop trying to be someone your not and see where that gets you!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 10

well maybe people DO hate you...people dont like to be called paople..you need toget a grip and stop being such a namby pamby.