When it's about easy things, like dinner or a movie, my boyfriend talks. When he comes home from work he can talk for hours about his working day or other stuff that kept him busy that day. But when I want to tell him stuff, he only listens.
Sometimes I feel sad or upset and I want to talk about it with him. He will listen, but he won't utter a word. It doesn't help me if he only sits there, quiet. When I feel bad, I need some feedback or comfort or whatever. But he wouldn't even put an arm around me. NOTHING!!! It makes me feel he's not interested in me.
Also, when I want to talk about relationship stuff, he keeps his mouth shut. I would like to know what he feels and thinks, but there seems to be no way to find out. He keeps telling me he can't come up with an answer right away, but it's not like he can answer the question on the next day either.
I've tried to talk to him about this in a nice way, also got mad at times, but... he remains quiet. I miss sharing stuff with him!
2006-07-28 23:12:03 · 10 answers · asked by luzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm especially interested in what GUYS have to say about this.
2006-07-28 23:28:33 · update #1
That's just how some guys are. At least he's still talking to you about trivial thing, so I don't think that he doesn't care about you. Some people think it would be best to be a 'good listener', especially people who can never know what to say to others who feel bad. Listening to you is his way to show that he cares; maybe he's afraid if he opens his mouth he'd say something wrong and make you feel even worse. As for the relationship stuff, you have to be patient... looks like he's not the type to talk about his feelings. Or he's just not ready yet. Either way, pushing him will only make him hate these talks more.
2006-07-28 23:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by crystal iceberg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 11:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont pressure him to talk about feelings! Guys hate that. When girls talk, they just listen... because thats what women are! We talk and let things out. Guys want to solve things.. so when we have something to share and they have nothing to do abt it, they wouldnt talk. Thats just what guys are. I know how hards it is, but hey, men and women are so different... When we have problems, we just let it out, and then we're ok. Some guys are not capable of sharing problems with women thats why we tend to overanalyze everything about them. It just the way they are. Its male pride thats running thru their heads. They wouldnt talk because we would react so much. So they'd only listen.
2006-07-28 23:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by joe_logs_a_co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?
Or saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.
Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart
If you don't, you might break theirs.
Too many of us hide our true feelings because we are too afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all.
Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what theywould have done, or could have had.
*What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
*What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?
2006-07-28 23:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey dear sorry to say then he s not the kind of guy u need he s different i cant say that he doesnt love u but he is not at all expressive n what u need is expression n love. so give another thought dont opt for a life time relationship with him. take care
2006-07-28 23:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by divya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just isnt that into you.....He is probably at a point where he says hey im in a relationship.....how did i get here?? I maintain there is nothing worse than a partner who wont talk to you.....If he keeps it up dump his ***. Get one who appreciates you.
2006-07-28 23:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by naughtiest_nurse_of_em_all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to learn something about guys. we don't examine our "feelings". when you ask us what we are thinking of and we say "nothing" it means we aren't think of anything.. we are not in a constant state of emotional turmoil like girls. as long as we are fed, warm and get sex then we are content.
sorry to burst your bubble.
2006-07-28 23:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he's just not a very affection person or honey...he simply DOES NOT CARE...he's not interested...sorry
2006-07-28 23:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by Hidden*Halo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is not sure about his feelings yet. do not push him, till he makes up his mind.
2006-07-28 23:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is totally shy tart...........
2006-07-28 23:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by priya_singh282002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋