im 21 yeras old and i dont want to get married.i have a cousin who said i want to be with u....i love u...i will come canada to marry with u.i dont know what can i do now?i hate him.i told my father that i hate him but he said :dont talk about that.he's a good boy.u must marry with him
2006-07-28 23:08:34 · 13 answers · asked by mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maryam jan. yr father is thinking to have a son-in law that is living in Canada. do not accept this marriage, as it will end to divorce. marriage with love nowadays end to it and without love means hell.
2006-07-28 23:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um... unfortunately I can't help you literally, I can only give you an advice.
Ok. Parents in general, thinks they know what's best for their child. Unfortunately, this is a trait that comes in-built at the Parents Factory(TM) and it comes with a set of objectives: (1) Raise child (2) Put child to a good school (3) Make child find a good job (4) Marry child off so that child is taken care off in case the unexpected happens (one's death, usually) and if child makes child in the mean time, then it's even better. Sometimes the 3rd step is skipped, but that's the gist of it.
The only person who knows how to deal with your parents is yourself. I can only hope you're not the only child, because that would make this just a tad harder. The only way you can make your parents change their mind is by showing them that you know what you want in your life and that whatever it is, it will not be a good move for you to marry your cousin. They will persist, you might even have a big fight, but if this is really important for you, you have to show them that. Oh, and 'pretend' you understand where they're coming from (usually this makes them a bit more receptive to your ideas), but they have to understand how you feel too.
I wish you all the best.
2006-07-29 06:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by loki_niflheim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say they 'find' love, as if it were an object hidden by a rock. But love takes many forms, and it is never the same for any man and woman. What people find then is a certain love.
Love, like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with a soaking joy. But sometimes, under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending to its roots, keeping itself alive.
Lost love is still love. It takes a different form, that's all. You can't see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it.
2006-07-29 06:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a cousin? isnt that illegal? Anyway, u should follow what ur heart dictates... not what other people dictates. They're not the one whos going to spend their whole lives with the person. It u. U should be able to stand up for what u like to do. Trust your instincts and be happy for what u have decided.
2006-07-29 06:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by joe_logs_a_co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forceful marriage is unhealthy & unhappy ending.hence you should have a nice talk with yr mummy instead of yr daddy on this issue. just let them know that you are still young & wishlist is to further study or persue yr career first.cousin boy can still be relative after all.
2006-07-29 06:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is your life! Do what you want... If you marry him it will be just you fault, not your fathers! Take your life in your hands!
2006-07-29 06:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by baby_marija 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your cousin that is all wrong! I would not listen to my father and I would leave his home immediately, if you are living there. That is totally demented!
2006-07-29 06:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naa! you're a grown up now, okay? its your decision to make! if you don't want to, then people just have to accept your decision! and are you allowed to marry your cousin???
2006-07-29 06:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kheme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who decides for you? you or your father? that is you right and you must decide for yourself! nobody can say yes or no for you! that is your right and you must decide for yourself! everything in our life depend of us not from our parents! if you don't like him then say NO NO NO!!!don't marry with him!+he is your cousin!
2006-07-29 06:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by magi filth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him, and your father. Love can only be ther if two people love each other, otherwise it's not love.
2006-07-29 06:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋