Wow, really need input on this one.....im just not getting it!!!! What does he want from me?

Question

Ok, my bd stated that he dosen't want to have a relationship with me ever again. Which by the way he never gave reason.....But here's the scenario.....He decided, after 3 years of non-communication, that he wants me and my child to move in with him for financial benefits for the both of us.....i am very skeptical....i will always have feelings for him, he said he has no romantic feelings for me.....what in the world should i do? And is he not being truthful about how he truely feels about me......

Thanx guyz....

Answer 1

Hi, My heart really goes out for you, this is a situation where u have to choose mind over heart.

I dont think he is thinking at all about you or your child and is more bothered about himself getting some financial benefits cause of you and the child.

If in 3 years he has not thought about yr well being then rest assured he is not at all interested in you or the child.

If you were alone you could still take a chance, but you have a child whose well being is your responsibility and it would be a big risk going back to him.

You should forget him and carry on with your life , which must have changed in the last 3 years.

Ensure safety of your child and yourself.

Answer 2

honestly, as a man like me, i think (but i may be wrong) he may have another woman beside him and was y right now he has no more feelings for you anymore.

However, he know that you r the innocent wife, which he may not want to admit he's mistake, but rather want to still care for both u n the kid.. to make sure that no matter what, u two r still at he's sight and that u guys r ok..

Man in such situation, will never be truthful to he's wife anymore. unless, if there were continuous argument or some what a kinda disagreement between the both of you..

My advise is, try sit down and slowly think about it, if possible, try to patch back (regardless if he have another woman or not). talk it out, forgive and forget about what happened... and start a new life..

Man like your husband, if he still have the thought and care for u n your child on financial benefit, i belief he's a soft hearted person and kind person.. maybe just follow what he says and slowly try to pull him back closer..

If you can try to get him to have sex with you is the best, try your best to give him what you've never given him in sexual activities before... This could also be part of the problem where other woman can provide better sexual service than you, n could probably be why he have no more feelings for your..

if you need more or further of my thoughts, kindly drop me an email at [e-mail]..

Answer 3

Let it be. For your child and you, let it be. What kind of person is so mean and broken minded to offer anything like this, in that context. Don't make your self depending on this man. He decided, that he wants...? What he decided, is to misuse you and your feelings to him! It sounds to me very sick. Even if it is a way to have you back. That man is a not matured, sadistic and tyrannic person. Do not be masochist, and do not spoil your child's life... money is not all, and if you still feel love for him... you should try to find out, why you like to be hurt.

Answer 4

sounds like he has been contacted by a child support agency and he is trying to avoid paying it. if you have not been communicating 3 years, you are doing ok on your own without him. good luck, sweetie.

Answer 5

I don't think you have a choice but to take him at his word. He may have more love for your kid than for you. If you can't take an arrangement like that emotionally -- then just say NO.

Answer 6

Thats right strange..I think he just wants control of you...stay by yourself and file for child support.....