hint to a superior so that they will not be placed in an uncomfortable position( to help in a good way )
2006-07-28 21:10:30 · 17 answers · asked by simon r 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY . YOU'RE AFRAID THAT YOUR FRIEND WILL BE PUT IN A SITUATION WHERE THEY COULD BE OUTED WITH MALICE AS A PURPOSE . YOU WANT TO HINT TO A SUPERIOR THAT A TRANSFER OR PROMOTION TO THIS AREA / FIELD WOULD NOT BE COMFORTABLE FOR THEM . WHERE HARASSMENT WOULD NOT BE OBVIOUS BUT WOULD HAVE A HOSTILE ATMOSPHERE . MAYBE A PROMOTION MAKING THEM SENIOR TO AN OLD SCHOOL PERSON WITH OLD SCHOOL VALUES . A VERY CONSCIENTIOUS DEED , DON'T PAY ATTENTION TO THE " GET MY LAWYER " PEOPLE OR THE IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS PEOPLE . THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO WOULDN'T HAVE THE GUTS TO HELP A FRIEND , THEY WOULD JUST SIT BACK AND SAY "YOU CAN'T DO THAT" OR "HOW DID THIS HAPPEN ? " . YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON EFFORTS LIKE THIS ARE REWARDED SOMEHOW BUT THEY ARE .
2006-07-30 08:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by DUSTY FOR KING 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is not your right to call this person out. When he is comfortable with his sexuality he will tell your/his superior on his own. By hinting, you are only going to make him uncomfortable and in the end will hurt the situation instead of helping it, no matter what your intentions are.
You should also first approach your colleague and talk to him, go out for coffee let him know that you are there for him and let him say his piece. Maybe he isn't gay at all, just is in touch with his feminine side.
Hope this helps. Don't impose yourself on him though.
2006-07-29 04:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Stevo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no. Bad Simon. Do not meddle in this. TRUST ME. It is for your own good.
A person sexual orientation has nothing to do with work. If you go ahead and open your mouth about something that is none of your business you are putting yourself in the spotlight bigtime, and it's not going to be a good spotlight. Your superiors are grown ups, even if an uncomfortable situation develops (which I doubt) they will know how to handle it. The key thing at work, (besides doing your best etc, etc.) is to protect your butt at all times. And even commenting on a persons personal life at work can lead to trouble, FOR YOU. It's all in the grapevine baby, office gossip travels faster than light.
I hope you really get this. To finalize my message of "doom" (LOL): There is a saying in spanish that I have always felt has helped me stay out of a lot of trouble. "Calladita te ves mas bonita" Which roughly translates into "You are more attractive with your mouth shut".
So there... I did what I could. Good Luck (staying silent!) LOL
2006-07-29 04:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dante 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not trying to be a smart butt, but you can't catch it, If they have put you or someone else at work in a uncomfortable position Then i say yes that person put in that position needs to and should go to their superior , and then that person should be addressed, and let them no that this is a place of business not
( THE HIT ON ME, PICK ME UP GAY NIGHT CULB)
But if you r doing this just because they are gay then you need to stay out of it just as i said this is a business not a
( TELL EVERYTHING YOU HEARD ABOUT SOMEONE CLUB)
2006-07-29 07:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by kingle65 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states it is legal to fire someone simply for being gay. You needn't "hint" anything unless you want to put your gay colleague in a really bad spot. I'm not sure you're helping.
2006-07-29 09:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter if they are gay or straight. These situtions which are considered uncomfortable will happen to anyone. But if its a harassing way, well you colleague will have a harassment suit he can claim.
2006-07-29 04:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Zac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What part of "mind your own business" don't you understand?
Bringing up another's sexual orientation, regardless of what you think is 'helpful', isn't a good idea at all. You could get into a lot of trouble.
Your business stops at the end of your nose!
2006-07-29 07:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh, don't do that........please don't do that! you don't "need" to hint anything -- it's not your business. even if you are well-intended, it simply is not your place. if the colleague wants the boss to know that he/she is gay, then he/she will let it be known. stay out of this, it can only blow up in your face! good luck!
2006-07-29 04:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen, Dawn! I don't know where people get this feeling they have a right or a responsibility to meddle in other people's affairs...especially personal ones like ones sexuality.
2006-07-29 04:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an unbecoming thing to be a busy-body. For pity's sake, leave the guy alone. You could open up a big can of worms.
2006-07-29 04:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋