the baby if a am pregnant? my childs father beat me pregnant and calls me names is financially supportive and treats our child fine. the unborn's father is nice but i don't know if he may later. he sounds supportive.
2006-07-28 20:56:56 · 14 answers · asked by syb e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Shouldn't have you thought about all this before you got pregnant. Birth control is a viable alternative these days! Ok then what if you want to have kids later or actually get married? Men can be real supportive but jealousy is a big thing to get past...especially when another mans child is taking all your time and attention!!
2006-07-28 21:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should never be with a man who is abusive. Second, if you are not able to financially support the baby on your own...I don't think you should have the baby. Not only will it add more to your plate, but will make things harder for the next few years....and it's not worth it. Furthermore, if you doubt that the new father is going to be a good father ..then I recommend that you talk to him and ask him what he think about you being pregnant...if he isn't supportive even a little or seems hesistant than don't be in that relationship either. Finally, it is truly up to you if you want the baby or not..but I do recommend that you check with yourself to see if you can support the baby on your own.
2006-07-29 04:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, are you ready to raise another child by yourself? Are you able to support yourself and your children? Do you have a job and your own place? Does your family surround you with love & emotional support? I ask all these questions because I'm involved with lots of young teen girls, and they are in the same kinds of situations (some much worse). It's not a matter of which guy is better. It's about your children, and providing what they deserve. My son operates a foster home for children under 5, and we see first-hand what happens to children when the parents don't put their children first. My son's mother-in-law works at Social Services, and tells me stories of some of the teens she's in contact with. I've helped some of those teens, trying to teach them how to mother their babies. Many of them were too concerned with their "night life", and would use people to get what they wanted. You need to get YOUR life together, fast, before baby is born. If you're not finished with high school, do so, no matter what. There are lots of programs out there that help young gals like you, so take advantage of them. They'll help you get the education you'll need in order to support your family. Make sure the courts know who the daddies are, so that they financially support their children. Too many guys enjoy fooling around, but make like the Invisible Man once they hear about a baby. Or worse...they hang around, sponging off of the girl, knowing that she'll probably get some state money & a place to live. Gives them a nice place to flop & mooch. I don't know if any of this is happening to you, or if it's in your future. But, you're young and you CAN change the direction that your life is going in right now. You don't HAVE to marry either one of the daddies just to give your children a father. Neither one of them may be suitable as a dad. Especially if they don't have full-time jobs. Other than all the other tips I gave you, the best thing you can now do is to tell all the other young gals you know what sex before marriage can do for THEM. Seeing is believing, and maybe you can prevent a few of your friends from going down this same path. No one thinks it will happen to them until it does. Then, it's always the girl that has the tough road to go down. And rarely does the "dad" step up and be a man. It's the girl that gets labeled as a slut or other rotten name. Last time I looked, it still takes two to make a baby, right? Anyway, I'm really trying to help you, and in no way am I judging you. I was almost in your shoes. Fortunately, I didn't get pregnant, but I could have. Since I have many years to look back on, I can see where I've been and where I screwed up. You can't do that right now. That's why there are people like me out there. We've been down your road, so we need to help you in any way we can. And if you really don't think you can handle another child, consider adoption. There are thousands of good families just waiting to adopt a sweet little baby. My daughter-in-law is one of them, as she can't have children of her own. I hope I've helped in some small way. Hope all works out really well for you and your children. <*)))><
2006-07-29 04:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have your head examined--that what you should have. You have already ruined your life and the life of your first-born because it will grow up in a home without a full-time father and obviously a home with highly questionable security.
And here you go after another?
You need to have your tubes tied. You are creating nothing but trouble for the next 50 years and the welfare you will be demanding means that some decent family of married husband and wife will have to accept a lower standard of living to pay the taxes for your selfish welfare demands on society.
You make me sick.
2006-07-29 04:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby if you can. It is your responsiblity when you have an unprotected sex with someone. Also, if the unborn baby's father is nice, then trust him and he might be a good guy.
2006-07-29 04:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Dogs Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make that decision for you. Can you financially support another child? Because if it hits the fan you have no one else to rely on but yourself.
2006-07-29 04:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by cerwenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what ever your heart tells you. I would dump the man, and have the baby. If i couldent take care of it i would but it up for adoption.
2006-07-29 04:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rain-- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who beat who? that is very confusing.
Whoever is doing the beating......stay away from.
Another baby, another guy? Do you think you might be learning something about your behavior.?
2006-07-29 04:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, haven't you heard of using protection.....well if it was me honestly i'd have an abortion but that's just me. no one can tell you what to do, talk to the baby's father and decide together.
2006-07-29 05:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't get rid of the baby!!! None of these men are worth it!!!!
2006-07-29 04:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by AAP0305 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋