I come from a family that is really sarcastic. I developed that quality. My intention is not to hurt anyone but sometimes I think I do. I wouldn't tease someone if I didn't like them. Like my friends, I tease them a lot and most of them don't have a problem with it. My friend Becky has been really sarcastic with me but its not nice and I fight back w/o thinking and some of the things I say aren't nice at all. I have asked Ashley if my sarcasm bugs her and she says I am funny and what Becky says is mean. I can't help but feel that the reason she is sarcastic is becuz of me even tho Ashley says she always has been sarcastic. I guess I feel if I was her and my friend always attacked me I would fight back, so is it my fault that she is like that even tho Ashley says she has always been that way? Should I stop being sarcastic? Is it bad being the way I am?
2006-07-28 19:55:54 · 22 answers · asked by charmedp4forever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I grew up in a sarcastic family. My own two boys were/are sarsastic. Nothing wrong with it. \
BUT........Not everyone will get you. As you mature you need to know when and when not to be sarcastic. And who can take it and who can't. Also you need to know when it is and when it isn't right to be scarcastic Be thoughful of others. Don't lose your sense of humor......and you can show your humor in different styles.
2006-07-28 20:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is sarcasm and there is just not being nice and kind of being cruel and thinking it is sarcasm or using that for a cover up. I am sarcastic too but my close friends and family also know the me under that - b/c I can use it as a defense mechanism. I don't think u should change who you are but maybe you should let the other parts of who are you show through - compassion, warmth, empathy - it is hard to talk to someone when you can't talk to them b/c what they say back it always sarcastic. I think in the end you may push people away. There is healthy sarcasm and negative sarcasm & I guess only u know which one u use most. That is what is important. It may also be intimidating. Maybe you should get in touch with who you are - past the sarcasm that you grew up with - and expand on some positive traits that allow you to let people in - this one could push them away - a lot of people are not receptive to sarcasm and can misinterpret it for cruelty. If you notice it is a problem, it may be. Everyone has aspects to their personalites and there has to be more than one - sarcasm is healthy and can be funny but try to figure out how you are using it and why - and maybe sometimes there are better ways to express yourself - that may draw people to you and allow them to feel comfortable talking to you , not like oh no what is she going to say now... you are you so you know if you have things to work on or if you are happy with that person so figure that out -good luck. just be a good friend. like you said, think of what kind of response to things you would want.
2006-07-28 20:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by shane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound sarcastic to me. You seem confused. Ashley? Becky? Are you trying to be funny? Grow up and let your sarcasm express itself.
I assume you are being sarcastic about certain things rather than just doing it without thinking. Tho from what you say I'm not sure. Maybe it is being bad the way you are. Whatever, just stop being weak kneed about the whole thing. Have confidence in yourself and try to live up to it.
2006-07-28 20:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by beggarstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are limits. When we cross the limits we end up hurting others. I tend to have a dry sarcastic sense of humor too, so I know that I have to curb some of my witticisms myself. Sounds like your friend is trying to one up you but lacks the sensitivity gene to realize when she has taken sarcastic to just plain cruel. It would be interesting to modify your own humor, since you feel you have inadvertently hurt people sometimes and see if that helps curb your friend's outbreaks, which are cruel. Rather than 'lose' the ability to express yourself maybe you could concentrate on humor that didn't relate to others, but to outside topics. Sometimes families that practice sarcasm amongst themselves do not understand that the rest of the world doesn't necessarily appreciate this type of humor and it is always good to reflect upon and change attributes about ourselves that do not serve our own best interests or those around us.
2006-07-28 20:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by honorbright24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first: sarcasm is a way to draw attention to yourself
second: it keeps people at a safe distance
choose a way of being that fits for who you say you are in your life and the world
i struggle with sarcasm to but i have looked behind that curtain and recognised it for what it is. I like play and humour don't get me wrong! But lets call it for what it is.
2006-07-29 01:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by zigzagidiot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sarcasm is great. Sarcasm really has a positiveaffect on all that are exposed to it. Please keep being very sarcastic and everything will work out fine for you. Please could you make yuo question alittle bit longer, I was fascinated with your words...
2006-07-28 19:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im like that too, but their are times when u cant keep being sarcastic and be serious u know?
2006-07-28 20:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not bad at all. Have the same attitude when others have a dig at you. Hope you won't retaliate at that time.
VR
2006-07-28 20:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by sarayu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it isn't!! I'm always sacarstic and that has won me lotsa awards at school...best debator,best speech...blah blah blah
2006-07-28 20:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell BECKY to shut up!
2006-07-28 20:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋