what are the chances that my kids will be loved and protected by their father when he has another woman and child ? He had a record of disappearing for 7 straight year from their lives before and rarely communicates with them these days? What should i do to insure that no harm will come to my kids or worst driven away from our home/house and stop schooling.
2006-07-28 19:53:13 · 9 answers · asked by marikit _ako 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
idon'tknow just pray about it
2006-07-28 19:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by goodfriendsgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think you're going to die? Are you just thinking ahead or do you have something in mind. This question is somewhat vague and misleading. First of all do you have any other family members who may want to adopt your children and have you ever asked the father if he may want to relinquish his parental rights and be able to do whatever he wants after that?
If he was to give up his rights and you know someone whom you truly trust to love and provide for your children; then you could make the appropriate arrangements for their future. There are insurance policies available that cost next to nothing and will allow for some security for your children's future. You might try opening one up they usually begin coverage as soon as they receive payment from you. There are some that are only $3 a month and up to $24 per month.
I wish you the best if you have any questions just ask and I can point you to some of these companies.
2006-07-29 03:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you die you can not do anything. If the father has not been abusive etc.. then he will have his two daughters to raise.
Not knowing the complete story here it is very hard to answer you.
But! If you want to stop your daughters from being with their dad then you need to do stuff via the court now.
Careful you could be messing up all of them forever after your gone.
If you do they will remember you forever and not in a nice way..
2006-07-29 03:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're taht concerned with it then you have tow choices:
1. If you think he will not be a good provider you have to prove it, docuement it and have it so ordered in court. If you go that exspensive route you also have to select someone to be responsible for them if you do die suddenly, or they go into foster care, possbily being split up.
or 2. If you have issues with him not being around and he probably be a good provider, get him off his *** and have himinteract with the kids more. Sue him, if you haven't, for support and require him to take them on his scheduled visits. Get off your tail and frequently visit with them and him.
It doesn't sound like ther's an issue here, regardless of where he is, he'll be tracked down and be required to take custody of them, again, IF something were to happen.
Now, stop thinking of the worse, and enjoy your life with your children. The law will take over in the end.
2006-07-29 03:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mike B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will feel better when you get this settled.
Do you have full custody of your children? If not get it. Then with an attorney write up a will and state who you want to raise your daughters. Make sure you document everything that you can. If you have ways to prove the girls dad was gone for 7 years. prove it. Judges are impessed and depend of facts.
Don't count on dying young.....but do get this done so that you don't have that to worry about.
Be strong
2006-07-29 03:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT DOES THE LOVER HAS TO DO WITH IT?IS HE YOUR HUSBAND?OR WAS HE YOUR LOVER AT ONE POINT AND TIME?IS IT REALLY ABOUT THE KIDS?IF YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED THE KIDS DO NOT AUTOMATICALLY GO TO HIM...IF HE HAS BEEN IN AND OUT THEN TALK TO A FAMILY ABOUT THE SITUATION..I HAVE 5 KIDS... 2 ARE BY AN EX AND THREE ARE BY MY HUSBAND... THERE IS NO DOUBT IN MY MIND HE WILL TAKE CARE OF ALL 5 TO THE BEST OF HIS ABILITY AND NO BROAD WILL EVER HURT THEM OR ITS LIKE THAT...MY TWO OLDEST KIDS FATHER IS THE SAME WAY... NO COMMUNICATION....I HAVE TOOO MANY PEOPLE THAT LOVE ME AND MY CHILDREN TO SEE TO IT THAT MY CHILDREN ARE TAKEN CARE OF... LIVE THE LIFE YOU WERE PUT HERE TO LEAD... YOU MAY NEVER HAVE TO EXPERIENCE THIS ....PRAY AND KEEP IT MOVING...
2006-07-29 03:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by mspussycat6305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been wondering that same thing. I've been told that I need to make it legal. I.E.... making a will..getting it notorized....just making it legal that I give a certain person rights to my child.
It really sux thinking that you may not be around for your child, but you need to talk to a lawyer about securing your childs future.
Chances are that your ex's new lover will care deeply for your kids. That's how most NORMAL people are. If she is a psycopath, then, explore your other options.
2006-07-29 03:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't, generally you choose a better guy to have kids with. having a lover has nothing to do with it but he was a bad father before that. is there someone else a sister, mother, aunt whatever you could leave their care to?
2006-07-29 03:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find someone that you and your kids know that's willing to be their gaurdian should anything happen to you.
2006-07-29 03:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋