sleeping with a married woman and now am in love with her?

Question

we both see each other alot she is afraid to leave her husband she came after me now i have fallen in love with her cant get her of my mind she now wants to slow down what do i do been doing this for 8 months now

its not the sex that keeps me going back she listens helps me out has been there for me iwas in the hospital for a week out of family and the ex recently divorced myself would not go see me she saw me everyday

even lied she told them she was my wife to see me out of visiting hours with out me calling her

Answer 1

you will be the one hurt in the end, trust me

Move on, there are millions of people in this world you have not met yet. She is just being selfish for keeping you on the side this long.

But if you have fallen in love and she won't leave her hubby, she does not feel the same about you.

Unless she is afraid to leave only for fear of her safety, she is to dependent on him and that security is way more important to her than love.

Answer 2

No no everyone is wrong here. It depends also how long she is been married and if there is kids involved. 8 months is not a lot of time considering the fact that she is a married woman so she has to go trough this transition in a timely well thought manner. She cant just get up and leave. I feel she cares for you but she is scared on what the husband's reaction will be. She would have left you already if she only wanted a quick thing with you. Seriously at this point is your call to leave or give her a time frame to decide what she really wants. and if she doesn't move forward with the time frame you gave her. then she is not ready to move on and that means she wont leave him at least not yet. good luck to you both. : )

Answer 3

LoL If you loved her and she loved you then she needs to get clear of her current relationship first. How could you love a woman that you already know is a cheater at heart? I think if she does sleep with you then you should leave her alone. You are treading on thin ice. You should leave her alone and not interfer with her marriage. You may just end up getting burned in more ways than one. People get shot over this sort of crap all the time.

Answer 4

This was written to the dumb *** who said she was in the same situation. In love with another man's wife, how stupid does that sound. People need to write stuff down and read it. If it sounds stupid it's probably is and is a bad situation to get into.

You sure do sound like a dumb ***. See you must not think more of yourself if you are willing to "take what you can get". You sound like a stray dog. Do you not value yourself more than that to wait on the side lines for something that may never happen. This is 2006, all married people who are cheating give excuses for not leaving. If their situation was all that bad, guess what? They would leave, no ifs, ands, or buts. You must like spending holidays alone, or pretending to celebrate them early. Did you read everyone Else's postings? If he cheated on her, please tell me what makes you so damn great that he won't cheat on you? Was his wife not just as great as you in the beginning? He did marry her. There are way to many magazine articles, t.v. shows, radio shows, etc. for people to still be screwing someone Else's husband or wife. You are a bunch of selfish assholes. Think of the time the kids, who they usually say they are staying for lose when they you share those stolen moment with their mother/father. Grow the help up, build your self-esteem and respect the other woman/man if not yourself.

Answer 5

I went through the same thing a few years ago. She kept saying she was going to leave her husband but she never would. It lasted about a year . It ended because we kind of just drifted apart. My advise for you is to find someone who can be a real girlfriend. What the two of you have will never be more than what it is right now. Don't feel bad though. Remember the good things. Life is a mixture of joy and pain. That's just the way it is.

Answer 6

If it ain't the sex then it ain't nothing. Don't try to bs me. I have been having sex with all of the married women I can for years. I prefer them because they have the experience to do the job right. If you have fallen in love with her then you are the sucker. She will drop you in a second. After all look at what she is doing to her husband now. Don't think that you have the golden rod. The minute she finds a better one she is going to ride it. A woman in heat is the most common animal in the world.

Answer 7

I understand your problem! i am in the same situation..I have been seeing this guy for 5 months and we have a great relationship but he is married--he will not leave his wife right now because of reasons I can not fault him for. I tried to break it off but he is like a drug the more I get the more I have to have. I wish I had and easy answer for you but I don't-- I my situation we have both admitted to very strong feeling but now is not the right time to move forward. I have learned to be content with what we have and when we get to spend time together and I will wait for him to be ready . He understands I am here for him and I will be waiting if he decides to leave ... Until that time I am willing to get what i get. I am in love with him and would not change meeting him for the world...Good luck I hope It all works out.
Just to clarify I am seeing a married man not a woman. for the
stupid *** who does not know how to mind his own business and aparently does not know how to read either

Answer 8

Sorry, but you've been screwed in more ways than one. It's obvious she only wanted to have a fling, and she never had any intention of leaving her husband. When she says she wants to slow down, she means that she is not in love with you and never wanted you to fall in love with her.

In the future, don't date married women. I'm sure you can find a nice lady to date who is unattached. This whole relationship was based on being deceitful, so what did you expect? Did you really think that this could have had a happy ending?

Learn from this experience and move on.

Answer 9

Lets say she leaves her husband and is with you, marrys you.
geesh wouldl you trust her???????????
She is married.....which is a ceremony where two people promise to love honor and cherish, and be faithful.
She sounds like a woman who isn't honorable or faithful.

Does that really appeal to you? If so, don't you think you are stealing another man's woman?

Get that woman out of your life. Be an honorable man.
Find your own woman. You will be in the middle of a huge mess.

Answer 10

You can really think it's going to work. If she cheated with you she will cheat on you. With all the single females in the world WHY would you want to someone else left overs. Do you think she is not sleeping with her husband? Try being #1 in your relationship.

Good Luck!