So I really care for this guy.. hes everything I expected but due to his past relationships. He finds that I maybe lying or I am not being serious.. I have tried everything I know and I feel like he's playing with my feelings and its not right, I have never hurt him, and nor do I plan on it.. Anyone have advice on what I could try or do? I just want him to see and know ide never hurt him and now he has me on strikes.. its so crazy I feel like I am in pre-k and earning stars just because I love someone and they would rather shut down over days that will never be relived.. I have spoke to him but he just says drop it or nevermind or stop talking about it. I am lost on idea's and I have never felt this way.. so am I looking for help or advice please, I am new to feeling this way.
2006-07-28 19:33:59 · 12 answers · asked by Rich 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to give people time who have been hurt by being lied to. Trust me I was in a relatioship and I got lied to all the time even about the small stupid things like I would ask did you feed the dogs, and he would say yeah. Even tho I knew we didn't have dog food..... SO after that relationship it took me a long time. Just keep showing him that no matter what you are telling the truth he will learn to trust you if you are worth it to him. Hope this helps. Just be patient!
2006-07-28 19:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by heather_21_2006 2 · 12⤊ 4⤋
Just because you crave for him doesn't mean that he craves for you!!! From the words you have written, it looks as though you are still childish, and justifiably wants him to care for you alone!!!
I believe he is a happy go lucky guy and has not taken your approaches seriously!!! I don't think he will have any close friend even( he treats everyone he meets as friends), if at all he confides on somebody, tell that person your emotions!! If he/she can transmit the intentions, probably, it may click!!! All the best, my dear!!
2006-07-29 03:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's maybe blurry,disoriented,in a serious identity crisis and totally not ready to get out of his protective shell yet.Obviously,over time he'd hardened himself and created layers to shield his true feelings so in a way he's acting way too defensive.So,let him be..the problem is solely his.He had to fight his own demons.Let him discover himself and encourage him to reflect on his behavior so he'd see his own truth and its worth.Let him go if it really doesn't work out.There's no sense in staying in a relationship wherein each and everytime there's a storm he barricades himself and builds a wall for you to break each time.It's just not fair.So whatever actions you'll take let him participate and if he continues to shut you out of it instead of discussing so then,you have your answer--move on & don't look back,he's not worth your time & affection.
In every pan is a cover...he may be someone elses' pan so refrain from covering..you'll only get burns.
take care.
2006-07-29 02:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by cascadingrainbows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Placing pain or doubt on another person is never correct, neither is placing yourself in any position where you support another doing that to you. Sorry, but it sounds like he is taking advantage and externalizing things he never felt like dealing with while his previous relationship was disintegrating. and you are NOT that person he knew before, YOU deserve a chance without any prejudice. Hard to do, but - "I will never be that other person", and "speak only to me and not your memories" might be a start at ground rules that let both of you be yourselves - without the unneeded baggage carried from past relationships. A start at most.
2006-07-29 02:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by BrettO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not fix him. If he thinks there is nothing wrong then all you can do is:
1. wait it out or
2. Decide if you are willing to be with someone who is not able to return your feelings.
Please don't let him tear you down in the mean time.
If you are under 21, this is too much for you to be going through already. Take care of YOU.
2006-07-29 02:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by krs451960lovesnlc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Being indifferent with the intension of not letting urself away with little attention u may receive after this.There is no point in following shadows
2006-07-29 02:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tom Cruise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you of legal age? Do you like black guys? Maybe I could hook you up with my buddy, he's been looking his whole life for a guy like you.
2006-07-29 02:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take this from a man he is playing you only thing would an ultimatum to set him straight if he stays he is serious if not he never was
2006-07-29 02:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a rest. It's not too late to turn your life around and be normal.
2006-07-29 02:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that all you can do is be his friend. I think in time he will realize you aren't going anywhere and you are someone he will be able to depend on.
Good luck.
2006-07-29 02:37:09 · answer #10 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋